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Wow, now this is an interesting question!!! I must say, it would be interesting to say the least. I have a friend right now that has raised a child for 10 years, has another that is 6, and thought they were both his. Until his exwife divorced him and said, oh, by the way, the 10 year old is not yours. He's on the birth certificate, has been ordered to pay child support, but now knows the child is not his. Legally, it is and he will pay no matter what. It's more of a knowledge thing really. I don't disagree with the suggestion of mandatory testing, it would shut up men who automatically say "it's not mine" by proving it is, and back off women who are trying to get child support out of someone when he is not the biological father. The bad thing is, it will hurt people, like my friend, who wanted so much for that child to be his, and is devestated that it isn't. coco |
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I quite agree with the fact that a court will consider paternity testing if the "named father" requests it... BUT.. where a person stands in the shoes of a parent for a lengthy period of time, I don't think they should just be able to cut and run either... I guess I am a lil bit old school about this because I think that if, for instance, a man gets together with a woman who has children, he has to consider that she is a "package deal" and that, sooner or later, those children will bond to him in a parental role. Ditto the woman who gets together with a man who has custody of his children and doesn't want to acknowledge that the court will assign her some financial responsibility if she stays over a given period of time. It is the mandate of the court to make their decisions in the "best interest of the children" and I fully agree, that this is the way it should be. On the other hand, if a woman is already receiving child support from the biological fathers, she should not be able to "double sweep" two guys... And if she isn't receiving support from the biodad, the court should be ensuring that she does go after him... I think it takes more than a sperm donation to make a "Dad" (or more than an egg to make a "Mom") and where guys or gals are thinking of entering the lives of an existing family, they need to really think about the responsibility they may very well end up being assigned by the Courts. |
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It should be ordered in cases where a woman seeks child support 16 years after a child was born and the alleged dad didn't know about the child until he was served with papers. Women then go for back child support which isn't fair. Em |
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I paid child support for many years for a child that I've often wondered if I am the biological father of. It has become more and more obvious that I am not. While I was paying the child support and I felt doubt or some kind of evidence came my way that she was not my daughter I reminded myself that the only dad she knew was me. Whether or not it was biological I was "Dad" and still am to this day. That "child" now is married with two children of their own. I will never wonder if those children are my biological grandchildren or not. As long as I hear my grandson call me GRAMPA whenever he sees me, there will be no doubt. |
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Capitol, Great response!!! You're right, if you have already bonded with the child and you're the only father they've known then it would be terrible to "cut and run" as Silken put it. It isn't the child's fault and I think the bottom line it to do what's best for the child. coco |
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