Hi, serenityprayer--It is very, very difficult to stand by and watch a loved one be treated this way.  Unfortunately, therapists will often attribute what they consider to be a child's 'acting out' to the parent.

 

If you have not yet read this page, I would encourage you to do so:

 

 

Are these therapists of your own choosing?  Perhaps it's time to change therapists if not.  I would encourage you to support your partner as much as possible, and definitely make sure she understands that safety IS a major concern here.  Is she discounting that her daughter would hurt her when it came down to it at all?  I surely hope not.  Also try not to get overly-involved in interceding with her daughter.  You're better off supporting, but not getting involved in the dispute between them.  She will target whomever she chooses in her wrath, including you.  Don't make yourself a target.  It sounds as if her mother has a plan if she escalates, and that's good. 

 

This is a very difficult situation.  My thoughts are with you.

 

Lynn

I agree with Lynn

 

People do seem to take the side of the angelic P and it seemed that back in the 70s the theme ran

 

"The kid's okay - sedate the mother"

 

This was really good fun - I fell asleep on the kitchen floor with a rampant 2 year old running the show and a pre-term baby asleep in her bedroom

 

Luckily my mother tried to ring me and when Ididn't answer the phone she drove straight to my place and managed to wake me up by banging the door not far from where I was out to is.

 

Then for years everyone thought my P was angelic in spite of his behaviour and until the end of his life it seemed to be my problem and my fault

 

I hope things are changing - and as Lynne as already said - you must find a therapist for yourself to support you - because I know and everyone else here knows that these Ps and Ns and Ss and they come from all over the family

 

Are really demonic and there is no life with them around at all

 

Keep in touch

 

Sparky

Hi Serenity Prayer. Welcome. What a tragic situation.

 

There's no question that K could and should have been arrested, taken away and possibly charged with attempted murder or assault of some kind. this is a very dangerous situation. \

 

D is afraid to discipline K and so, the tail now wags the dog. A mentally ill 16 year old who has this kind of record is a danger to everyone involved - that includes you too.

 

You are right, this bi polar, off meds, child is scary and a ticking timebomb. I am so afraid of who will get hurt before the situatin becomes a crisis and the authorities step in.

 

The therapist I believe has seen the potential outcome in suggesting that D live elsewhere - but who is going to supervise K? The fact likely is that there's no place in the social structure for K to go to.

 

Please be fully aware of the potential danger to yourself.  There may be nothing you can do except to leave to protect yourself.

 

Take Care