Annie

Your daughter is alot like mine, except that mine was not as much openly defiant, she was more passive aggresive and "behind your back" with her attacks against me. I don't know how old your daughter is at this point. First of all, I'm shocked that they diagnosed her with bi-polar if she's under 18. They don't like to diagnose a child when they are still a minor for fear the diagnosis will "stick" for a lifetime.  I don't know where you are located but, once we lived in Florida when my daughter was putting us through hell, we had good medical insurance. I took her to a place called "Tampa Bay Academy". They were a Godsend. They took her in for several months and insurance covered the entire cost. I think she even liked it. You can search them online. They are in Tampa, Florida which is a beautiful area. They will give intense therapy, group therapy, and medication regimen if needed. All in a beautiful inpatient setting. If your daughter is 18 or over, I recommend kicking her out and sticking to your guns if she doesn't want to follow your rules. Just reading between the lines I can tell she has been controlling you for sometime and sometimes when you're in the middle of it, it's hard to see objectively. I use to always think mine would some day "grow out of it" too. Well she's turning 29 and she gets worse, not better. Of course eveybody is different, I'm not diagnosing your daughter, just telling you my story. Hope this helps. Stick around and vent, this sight is wonderful. d.j.