Why does it hurt so much to finally stand up to my daughter and let her know what she did was a nasty thing and she needs to apologize she needs to take responsibility for her actions.  She locked out my grandkids from the house went to work and left them they are 10, 11 and 14 and I had to go pick them up and it was  still kind of cold out in February. Then she came to get them, after work  and was out the door before I knew it without them. Ran to the bar where my husband stops after work once a week, and stayed there. Her boyfriend told my granddaughter she called and left a message that she was out and with another man ,meaning her stepfather. So I knew where she was. when I got to the bar to ask my husband if she  was there, he lied to me said she wasn't . Her kids wanted to go home since they had school the next day. My other daughter and my grandkids were in the car waiting for me while I went in to find out if their mother was there. She stayed there  for hours and didn't come back until I went there to get my husbands car and walked into the bar. She ran out the back door. Drove back to my house drunk. I called and told my other daughter not to let her take her kids and drive. By the time I made it home , the police were outside of my home. My P daughter got so  nasty she was screaming at my daughter and started beating on her own daughter who is 14 because she did not want to get in the car. Then she lied and told the cops my daughter who is 23 and a social worker had pot in her room to get her in trouble. She has always been jealous of her. At that point I said the kids could stay over but my daughter had to go. So her boyfriend picked her up. The next day she has an old boyfriend pick up the kids. The next day she called the children 's aid and told lies about my daughter that she was taking my son to buy crack my son is 15 she hates him as well. and I allowed it because I was afraid of him cause he beats me everyday. She told lies about me my daughter and my son.They are both from her stepfather.  Now I can't even see my grandkids. She had the nerve to just come over after three months ,on mother's day like nothing happened. I told her how could you do this to me and your sister tell such lies. She said my other daughter could have called a cab for her..She was so out of control she would never have gotten into a cab. .She got mad at me and took the kids and left. Of course she made sure the only one who I really do have somewhat of a relationship with my grandson was at his fathers for mother's day She thinks she is justified in what she did to us. She has caused a lot of problems in the past. Usually every time you helped her out with a move or babysitting or anything she would find a reason to turn her anger on you and get nasty. So she would only come around when she needed a babysitter. Holidays the kids were allowed to come for half hour to collect their gifts and go home. There is no relationship with anyone in our family to her. She told her kids friends are only good if you can use them.  She put her x in jail for two years, and I believe him now how she lied about him too. She had a stroke at 17, and her father is schizophrenic.

She went to school and got a masters while her three kids lived with her on campus. After she put her x in jail, and got divorced. She talks about her x as being narcistic but doesn't see herself how she just uses people and has no real feelings for anyone. When I had cancer three years ago and had surgery she didn't come to see me at all.

She has my husband running her around for six months straight every day while she had no car,  until I got fed up and told her and him about it one day.  I really want to not have any thing more to do with her and even my grandkids are cold toward me when I see them because of her brainwashing them, except my grandson he snuck over on his bike a few times to see me, but I think she found out and he has not been over since. I don't know if I should take her to court or if its a waste of time since the kids are all ready turned. My oldest granddaughter has a cell phone she always tells me it is dying when I call her.  and she only wants to visit with my other daughter her aunt. She used to come over and ignore me all the time. I am tired of being hurt by my daughter. She has told so many lies in the past too. I can't trust her anymore. I hurt but dont' know what to do. How do you just stop having anything to do with your own flesh and blood your first born, and my only grandkids I feel such a void. I have been searching and I found this group because I wonder if others have this same problem and what do you do to get through it. My daughter who lives at home says she will never talk to her half sister again. She says she is too dangerous.

Because she tried to destroy her life. She is a social worker and she knows my oldest daughter has mental problems. but still wants nothing more to do with her.