Z......my daughter that died was a family counselor and therapist for delinquent children; supervised a large facility.  She told me that her sister had a personaltiy disorder but never named it and I never asked.  I am new thinking about narcisism.  How can there be normal children from the same family.  Yet, the (D) that has issues with me is very talented, is an administrative assistant for a nursing facility; keeps a beautiful home, etc. She has plainly said she and her daughter have the relationship that she never had with me.  I read somewhere professionals think this happens when a child-parent attachment does properly form when they are babes.  Thank you so much for writing.  There is so much to think about.