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Hi Mike! Hope things are well with you. My computer is acting better lately. Hope to hear from you soon. tricia |
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Tricia, I am still around, although I actually had not expected to hear from you again. I am happy that you are still around and hope you and your daughter are doing well. I will write more later as I need to go pick my son up from school right now. Are you doing O.K.? Mike |
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YAAAAYYYYYYYY!!!!!
Glad your are still around. How are things going? Things are super here. I still have my house and now have to sell it because it is now too small as I have some additional children to care for (4) and loving every second of it. I get to be domestic and stay home. I also babysit 4 more children as well.
I am hoping to buy an extra large home and care for 2or three elderly people as well. I believe I have found my niche.
I hope you are doing okay and hope to hear from you soon. take very good care.
Tricia |
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Hi Mike,
Please check your yahoo email account, K?
Thanks
Tricia |
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Tricia, Hmmm. I checked my [email protected] account, but I did not see anything there. Are you sure you sent something to that address? It is difficult for me to access my msn and yahoo accounts these days. I consider myself a Nomad. I sometimes live at my parents and sometimes I live with my wife (eventually ex-wife as she has filed for divorce). She is still entirely reliant upon my paycheck. We are trying to arrange things so that she can keep the house. However, I need her to get a job if I am to ever have my own place. In the meanwhile, the only computer I have easy access to is my work computer. I am not allowed to log onto MSN or Yahoo accounts on that computer. I cannot give out my work e-mail address in a public forum, but if you will write to me at the address above, I will send you my work address which I can access more easily. I am glad you seem to have found your niche. It sounds like a lot of work and a big commitment. This sounds like a job where you are needed. Well, I need to get to work myself. Have a good week. Mike |
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Hey Mike,
Sent you a note via the address you left above. I hope that you get it.
Sorry to hear that your wife filed for divorce and hope that your kids are doing okay. They say that they are the ones the suffer most. In my case I have to wonder, since I am on my way to court once again (the third time he has taken me to court in 13 months) Just one more form of his harassment (he never wins). It would be nice for the kids if they can stay in their home. It must be difficult for you not feeling like you have a home. You truly do have the patience of a Saint. I would give the person a date to have a job in which could support the house since she would also have child and alimony support to assist her.
Tonight I am on respite, my kids go to another home for 24 hours and I am savouring every breath of being alone! Except for worrying about my daughters well being while she is at her fathers girlfriend's (first wife's) house. However for the 14 days between respite it is seriously hard work but worth every single second. My daughter loves the kids and I love doing almost everything for them because they love it. They were waving to me from the cab that was taking them to the respite home for the night and as much as I love my respite nights I found myself a little emotional. They hate so much to leave me and I them but it is good for all of us to have some time to regroup. I also still babysit four other kids but not at the same time so I have at least one extra five days a week. I wouldn't have taken on the last two kids but they are children of a classmate that I went to school with for 9 years and a family that is going through hell right now. They also live on the next block and it is very convenient. They are good kids but are a little "flat" right now. It breaks my heart.
My one boy (16 yrs) has undeveloped abilities in the paranormal field. So I bought some tarot card for him and I. I usually read as we have to refer to the reference book so far and he is not a very strong reader but is learning the meaning of the cards well. Although he is not a strong student academically at school he has many talents spiritually and artistically. His biggest gift is his open mind. His sister is everything you could love about a twelve year old girl, my daughter and I don't do much with out her, if anything, we are so tight. Our other girl that is 16 as well is not related but so reminds me of myself at that age it is crazy! She is a horrific party animal but at the same time ridiculously honest and respectful. I love when she is at home and we have such awesome conversations. Even more I love when she borrows my clothes and I can think that I am sooooo hip even though her mother is a year younger than I! That brings us to our beautiful baby girl that just turned six months. She just started getting her first two teeth last saturday and just smiles, never fussy. On tuesday she rolled over for the first time and now can sit unassisted for more than five minutes! We have had her since birth when she weighed 4 lbs and now she weighs 19 lbs. She is soooooo fluffy that we need diaper cream in the creases of her legs! (ham hocks I say!) Here I am an hour and a half later missing them all! Good time to catch up while listening to John Hyatt I guess!
Hope this message finds you well and you get the email I sent you. It is showing on my end that it was sent as well as the last one.
Take care
kind regards
Tricia |
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Tricia, For some reason, there is no email from you in my yahoo in box. Can you give me your email address on this page? It would be a breach of policy for me to give out my work address in a public forum. Sounds like you have a good life despite the problems you have had to face. You should be proud of yourself. You also seem to be making a positive impact on the people in your life. I am doing well though I am very sad at times. This has been very tough for me emotionally. Since you are adept with tarrot cards, perhaps you can tell me what is in my future. Mike |
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Hi Mike,
email me at [email protected]
Trust me Mike, the grief involved with the end of a marriage is horribly painful for many reasons. It is something a person is never quite prepared for I don't think. I suppose that's because you get married with the intension that you will stay that way. I didn't realize that when I said those vows how very important they were to me. I do not wish that on anyone and would rather never get married again than to go through that experience again. However, I learned alot about myself and became a better person because of it. There seems to always be so much to learn through the bad situations. The rector of my church told me that God has set out to make me a healer and that's why I have had to endure the unpleasant events in my short life. I remember thinking "how profound" I have always been a firm believer that everything happens for a reason but never really had questioned why they happened to me or examined very closely why I am following the path that I am. I just feel fulfilled for the first time in my life and I guess that I just don't want to question that, I just love this euphoric feeling I get when I hear my house filled with the laughter of all the kids. I never experienced family life that way growing up. I really didn't know that families could have so much fun and happiness. I never would have ever guessed that I would be where I am today. I will do this until the day I die. It's funny, my Mom never wanted me to have more children because of the horrible time I had when my daughter was born. Once she was born I knew that I couldn't have enough children. Sheesh I should live in a shoe, eh?
We got like a foot of snow last night and I should shovel it, but I think I will do it tomorrow. I spoiled myself this year and bought an electric power shovel (very small snow blower) Pretty much a requirement in this country (along with a four wheel drive vehicle) Snow machines don't hurt when in a state of emergency after 4 feet of snow in 24 hours. That has happened. I got up one morning and looked out the window and all I could see of my car was one rear view mirror! It took four days to find someone to plow the driveway. I remember my boyfriend at that time coming 20 km on snow machine so that I could get to my parents house 1km away. That is not even a slight exaggeration. I suppose it beats earth quakes tsunami's and the like. Sometimes in the summer we have small tornato's (spelling?) but the path is usually only about 50 feet wide. Can you telll that I am here with only the baby that is sleeping? Blah blah......okay time for me to sign off before I tell you everything about nothing here in Canada. No, I don't live in an igloo and we don't call the people that do live in igloo's eskimo's they are Inuit. By the way do you give your kids eskimo kisses? Have you ever heard of that?
I will go and read your cards and report back either tonight or tomorrow. (baby is sick so probably won't be able to go to church)
shall chat soon
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Hi Mike,
Just read your cards. They were all pretty much related to your situation. I did a horseshoe spread which looks for detail in a situation. So here's what I get from the cards:
In the past you have been influenced by a person that appeared to be more mature than their age and your feelings toward that person have changed. It is indicated that new financial situation has risen and you must plan very carefully because it is going to affect your future.
Presently you are stuck in a situation that is not going to go away until you face the reality of it and look your fears straight in the face. Should you choose to do this you will be pleasantly surprised by the outcome although the outcome is not what you are expecting. If you choose not to tackle these issues you will remain stuck in the situation and a victim of your own circumstances
There is a person in your life that supports and encourages you. You are not very aware that this person is doing that. It is suggested that you take serious time to decide important issues. take at least 48 hours to decide serious issues.
The obstacle that you face is that you may need to make a sacrifice. You feel cheated because you have to do this but you hold part of the responsibility because you choose to idealize a person that didn't ask that of you. As a result, it caused undue pressure on both of you and you both ended up disappointed.
You are coming into heighted spiritual awareness in which your paranormal abilities are going to excell. This is going to guide you through all new relationships in which you will nurish. These are not love relationships but perhaps life long friendships.
The best course of action suggested by the cards is that even though you will have changes materially you are going to find more satisfaction personnally than you previously enjoyed. However, your emotions will take longer to heal than you are expecting.
The outcome of your situation suggests that you need to do some serious decompression - financially, emotionally and physically. Although you do not have very much faith in your abilities, you definatly possess the skills to find that faith and certainly the strength to carry on to more happiness.
the end of the card reading. What do you think?
It was really strange that while I read those cards I had this feeling that it is possible for you and your wife to work this out even though she has filed for divorce. I think you guys can do it.
kind regards
tricia
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Tricia, Thank you for the card reading. I will re-read it several times as there was a lot of information in there and a lot to discern. I really do appreciate your taking the time to do that for me. It sounds like this will not be a quick end to saddness, but an enduring dark night of the soul. Still, there is light at the end of that long tunnel. As for my paranormal abilities, I feel like they are all but lost. I know they are still there, but I can't seem to access them anymore. I think sadness has a suppressive effect on paranormal abilities. I practice Qi Gong, but it feels now like I am just moving my hands around. My instructor tells me I need to focus on forgiveness, not just of others, but also myself. I guess I shall his forgiveness meditation techniques. As for getting back together with my wife, I would surely be a fool to do that. I believe my wife has at least a mild personality disorder. She is somewhat of a closet narcissist. A closet narcissist is like a regular narcissist except that they do not openly seek praise as it is not safe for them to do so. Instead they focus on achieving sympathy and empathy through illness and misfortune. They are also, very difficult to spot as their real intentions are well disguised. She is not like this all of the time, but this certainly drives her behavior. Canada sounds like a beautiful place. Aren't we at war with Canada? Oh wait, that's Iraq. Silly me. Its hard to figure out the administration these days. Still, what snowfalls you have to deal with. I don't give my kids eskimo kisses. I believe thats when you kind of rub noses. Well, I will try writing you at your e-mail address from my work. Have a good night. Mike |
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Hey Mike,
The second paragraph of your message totally slays me. I figured out about 2 years ago that my x husband is a full blown undiagnosed Narcissistic Personality disorder. I actually belong to two MSN support groups with respect to that. It saved my life I think. I would most certainly encourage you to check some of these groups. I think what I needed most was validation. You wouldn't believe how many people are narcissist's and that is very very clear when you see the large number of new members each week. They suck the life out of you. Your instructor is right to work on forgiving yourself this is what I found most difficult and in fact still struggle with. I will forward the addresses once I get your email address.
I not really good at reading cards yet so my readings are quite general. I better go because I have to go shovel!!!
Tricia |
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Tricia, I sent you a essage at your e-mail address. I hope you get it. If not, please let me know. I don't have time to write now, but I just wanted to give you that message. Mike |
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Tricia, I had sent you an e-mail from my office, but I do not know if you got it. I am not often able to get onto the internet so I can not often respond on this forum. Thank you for the information about narcissim. People like that do suck the life out of you. I think all people, save the worlds greatest saints have some level of narcissim. I think it is a basic human trait that one must learn to keep in check. As children we are aware that our parents are our personal servants. It takes time to realize you are not the center of the universe. Some people never seem to come to that realization. If you will give the name of the site, I would be interested in joining that group. It is 29 degrees Fahrenheit outside. To me, that is pretty cold. I can only imagine what temperatures in Canada must be like. I will talk at you later. Mike |
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Hi Mike
I was able to email you finally. I will email you those groups as they are sooo very helpful. You are right probably a lot of people have some narcissistic traits. While my mom was alive I probably had a lot more since I really didn't need anyone because I had her, and really that was fufilling enough. When my friends or family have marital problems that is something I often suggest to them, subtract the person you depend on the most outside of the marriage (which usually is a parent) and apply a single parent situation to your circumstances and suddenly things don't look so rosey.
Actually, I gave that advise to a former neighbor of mine. Such a great professional couple that have a young son. She loses a bunch of weight and decides she doesn't feel the same about him so she runs to her mom. He gets a little bachleor apartment that can't accomodate the child so he spends his access time with the child at his parents. Meanwhile I know this couple can work it out - if there are no parents to take sides and to bail them out. I am hoping that it worked, he hasn't come by for coffee again and its been awhile so hopefully no news is good news, eh!
As for your weather how awful for you! It hasn't been dreadfully cold here, but that only means one thing........snow and lots of it! Right now it is 5 degrees F (for your convenience) and that is pretty comfortable for here. I am not very good at converting from celcius to farinheit but I do happen to know that -40 is the same. That's cold but so is -30 with a windchill of -55. Cold is cold and we usually experience a good two week cold snap each winter. Now that I don't have to work really, I have absolutely no intentions of even going out side during that kind of weather. However, I guess that I will have to get the kids on and off of the bus. My cat on the other hand is bored to shreds, wants to go out but is a fair weather cat and won't go out unless it is warm. Sometimes I must force the dog out too, the poor thing has fur as long as your eyelash and does not enjoy doing his business outside without serious encouragement.
Take care
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Tricia, Do you use Celcius? At the laboratory we only talk in Celcius and I often don't relate to Fahrenheit degrees. I find the Farenheit scale is just plain difficult to work with. Actually, I think english units are difficult at best. It is raining outside and I am staying the night at my "wifes house" in order to get ready for my daughters birthday party tomorrow. She is turning eight. I will look for your e-mail on Monday. Mike |
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