The following have been researched and designed to aid children in simple techniques of relaxation or concentration. Working with children and subsequently their parents, I found that there is a common misconception that children "know" how to focus. The next assumption is that you "just do it". However it is my opinion that although focusing is a automatic thing when entered into naturally it is sometimes difficult for children to do deliberately. The benefits of focusing and doing it in a relaxing manner are many and far reaching. It allows the mind to grasp information in a positive and anxiety-free style, while building confidence in ones self and ability. The techniques can be built upon to suit any childs needs or interests, allowing them the ability to orient themselves towards directing the inner strength and awareness that will develop through regular practice.

 

Please note that each technique requires the child to start with 3-5 deep breathes .... in through the nose, feep into the lungs and out thropugh the mouth. This approach accoomplishes 2 things; first it lengthens and stretches the spine while opening the chest cavity, secondly ... deep breathing floods the brain and blood stream with oxygen. Both of these serve as a signal to the brain that causes it to become more aware and receptive to immediate input.

 

Visual:
Ask the child to sit comfortably and breath deeply. Ask her to imagine a warm bright sun glowing in her heart. Explain that this is a source that will always give steady support and encouragement, and that it will warm and relax her. Her personal sun will help get past anxiety or distress in dealing with problems by giving her strength and calmness. This technique is suggested for self-esteem or anxiety based behavior, it's simple design is meant to deal with stress, regardless of age.

 

Auditory:
Ask the child to sit comfortably and breath deeply. Ask him to sit and listen to the sounds around him and to identify them. When he has identified the loudest sound, he is to ignore it and focus on the next sound and move on to the next, until he has ignored all but the sound of his own breathing. This technique is only recommended for older children as it requires a higher degree of preservence.

 

Tactile:
Some children simply can't sit still and no matter what. This technique requires the input of the child and a bit of creative crafting. Ask the child what texture feels the best: smooth, soft, rough, granular, etc When she has decided, choose a material that 'feels good', that she likes to run her hand across. Using a tissue box cut in half, place the material inside the box. If it is fabric; staple or glue it to a board cut ti fit the bottom of the box and insert it. If it is a mobile material such as sand or gravel, fill the box only halfway (depending on the age & responsibility of the child a partial lid may be required). When the 'thought-box' is complete, explain that it can be used as either a focusing device or as simple relaxation when she needs it. Within a short period of time the repeated tactile movement becomes a signal to the brain to enter a relaxed and receptive state (much like a common worry stone) while allowing for the physical release of movement without actually going anywhere.