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Staying Afloat
Amidst The Spin Taking Things Personally
Every time you interact with
others, you have the choice to listen to, acknowledge, and let go of their
words, or you can take what they are saying personally. Taking things personally
is often the result of perceiving a person's actions or words as an affront or
slight. In order to take something personally, you must read negative intent in
an individual's words or actions. But what people do and say has no bearing upon
you and is usually based on their own experiences, emotions, and perceptions. If
you attempt to take what they do or say personally, you may end up feeling hurt
without reason.
If you are tempted to take a comment or action
personally, creating some distance between yourself and the other person can
help you. Try to determine what is at the root of your feelings. Ask yourself if
the other person's words or actions are just reinforcing some insecurity within
you or if you can really be sure that an offense was intended. You may even want
to ask them what they meant. Finally, put yourself in the other person's shoes.
Instead of taking their words as the truth, or as a personal affront, remember
that whatever was said or done is based on their opinion and is more reflective
of what is going on inside of them, rather than having anything to do with you.
You may have been an easy target for someone having a bad day, and their
comments may have been offered with no ill intentions.
When you
recognize that what anyone says or does doesn't necessarily have anything to do
with you, you will no longer feel hurt or attacked. While it's easy to take
things personally, you should never let anyone's perceptions or actions affect
how you see yourself or your worth. Your life is personal to you, and it is up
to you to influence your own value and sense of
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Staying
Afloat Amidst the Spin Taking Things Personally
Every time you interact with
others, you have the choice to listen to, acknowledge, and let go of their
words, or you can take what they are saying personally. Taking things personally
is often the result of perceiving a person’s actions or words as an affront or
slight. In order to take something personally, you must read negative intent in
an individual’s words or actions. But what people do and say has no bearing upon
you and is usually based on their own experiences, emotions, and perceptions. If
you attempt to take what they do or say personally, you may end up feeling hurt
without reason.
If you are tempted to take a comment or action
personally, creating some distance between yourself and the other person can
help you. Try to determine what is at the root of your feelings. Ask yourself if
the other person’s words or actions are just reinforcing some insecurity within
you or if you can really be sure that an offense was intended. You may even want
to ask them what they meant. Finally, put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
Instead of taking their words as the truth, or as a personal affront, remember
that whatever was said or done is based on their opinion and is more reflective
of what is going on inside of them, rather than having anything to do with you.
You may have been an easy target for someone having a bad day, and their
comments may have been offered with no ill intentions.
When you
recognize that what anyone says or does doesn’t necessarily have anything to do
with you, you will no longer feel hurt or attacked. While it’s easy to take
things personally, you should never let anyone’s perceptions or actions affect
how you see yourself or your worth. Your life is personal to you, and it is up
to you to influence your own value and sense of well-being.
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