To shadowdancer........Unbelievable what you have endured in those short years with your two older children.  This disorder seems to get worse as they grow older.  It is the absolute hate and anger my daughter shows toward me, not only in words, but in her body language, and what she says to others that just blows me away.  In addition, turning our granddaughter against us, and being so hateful to my brother/sister/families just confounds me.  I can't stand the stress of being around her, keep praying that someday things will change, but, as you, am working hard to get on with life.  I was so glad to hear that you have found comfort and peace.  Blessings...JubileeKat