I would like to thank everyone for their words of wisdom, I thought I should let you all know that my grandchild will be going back to live with her N mother on the 26th of Feb, the courts here in Sacramento County are broken so badly that in 2005 there were 5 deaths and 2 on the brink due to the courts giving the children back to the parents.  My N daughter is living in her step grand parents home where she has allowed all of her grand daughters to be molested by her sons, they are both in prison for 10 and 20 years, with one coming up for parole in about 4 years, my home was not okay for my grand child that we raised for over 6 years but this house is?  Anyone who lives in the Sacramento area needs to be aware of how bad this system is and try to stay as far from it as possible.  I hope these words might help the next grand parent out there,.  I pray every day that my grand daughter be safe, and I pray for all the little ones out there that have parents like these.  What happened to our children?  Makes you wonder, god bless everyone