QUESTIONS

1. Where am I at with understanding and accepting that every relationship I develop serves as a mirror for myself, helping me to become more conscious?

2. Have I learned to see myself as reflected by the relationship I'm in? In other words, do I see that whatever issues I see in others are MY OWN, internal issues being reflected back to me?

3. How well do I make and use the power of choice? How am I with personal and professional decision making ability and talent?

4. Do I still have fear or doubt regarding my ability to survive physically and financially on my own? Where am I at regarding issues of power, money, self sufficiency? Do I get seduced by the world of seductive forces (sex, money, other people, etc)? Do I sell myself out in any way to get these things? Am I in any kind of emotional, mental, or physical bondage or attachment to authority, money, people, other power sources outside of myself?

5. Do I set people up as an authority over me, as a boss, partner, etc., and then feel resentful, angry, lost, or afraid?

6. Where am I at regarding issues that deal with personal identity and boundaries? How well do I defend and protect myself? Do I go into fight or flight? Am I able to calmly confront others and present or express my own truth about a matter or state how I feel? Do I speak from the “I�?place, or from “YOU did this?�?

7. Where am I at in my ability to take risks?

8. Where am I at regarding my resilience to recover from loss?

9. Where am I at with my desire to create? How well do I manage creative energy, fulfill my own needs, do what I love to do, and contribute? Do I take responsibility for fulfilling myself and creating my life as I choose it to be?

10. How well am I able to honor and care about others?

11. How well do I manage sexual power? Where am I at with my sexual energy?

12. Where am I regarding any need to control the dynamics of my physical environment? Do I have a need to control people or situations, and if so, do I understand that this comes from fear? Am I able and willing to explore what that fear is about and where it comes from?

13. Do I consciously choose to form unions with people who support my development, and can I release relationships that handicap my growth? Do I feel afraid, small, helpless, or turn over my power and decision making ability to others when in relationship?

14. When I feel uncomfortable, or life is going badly, do I blame others or circumstances for my problems , or do I ask: "Do I have inferiority, insecurity, or inadequacy up in myself right now?"If so, can I give myself love encouragement, understanding, and support? Am I willing to explore those issues in myself?

So - these are some great questions to explore to move you forward and shift out of and/or not create dysfunctional patterns and/or relationships. Try it and see what you get, being really honest with yourself - and, if you choose to, then ask to see how to shift that pattern into something better for you.