to hurtsomuch.  Thank you for talking about husbands.  Mine is a dear, most of the time, but he has done exactly as you described/ has taken (D)s side forever.  It has not been easy dealing with both of them and many days I bawled myself silly after one of the battles.  He never saw it while others in the family have, especially since the issues with my mother and daughter with cancer. AS sad and sickening as it feels to say, I had feelings at times when I thought (D) was glad her sister died.   No amount of coaxing could encourage her to visit with D-2. 

 

We took (D) and family on a trip to NYC earlier this year and with my back I have a walking problem, so I decided to stay in the hotel for that part of the tour.  (D) decided to vent her feelings about me to her dad who for the first time told he to stop.  In front of me she has said, "dad, it is never you, it is always mom who causes our problems."  Almost like an "electra" personality.  But, then, dad thrived on the attention.  He actually stood up for himself, for me two Sats. ago and I think he sees it.  It is encouraging to have found this site.