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My childhood babysitter, died Tuesday night. She was 92. I went to see one of her daughters Thursday, and was asked to help do her flowers. So, at the flower shop, we did 99% of the flowers, including the casket spray. The church was packed today as I attended her funeral. She being African-American, and me, white, I thought some of her great-great grandkids would say something. But they accepted me with open arms. After I got home, my adopted sister called me to say her ex-father-in-law died this morning. He blew his face off with a gun. I didn't know he was that bad off. I knew his wife died a few years ago of cancer. We don't know why he did it. Supposedly, he left a note, but my sis's son who was close to him, but wasn't up to discussing this with her. I always thought the world of him. Wonder what kind of week this will be...... Doofers |
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I am so sorry for your losses. Suicide especially is a difficult thing to understand - we love that person and the people who are especially close to them wonder why they didn't come to them and get the help they obviously needed. But, Doofers, I do know from experience that he had to be hurting so badly inside that he just couldn't see any other way out of his pain and he made a split second decision that ended his life. It wasn't the right decision, and it's horrible, but it was an illness that caused him to do it. It wasn't something that any of his family did or didn't do for him. I just hope you all get grief counseling because this is one of hardest losses to get over. My thoughts are with you. Loves and hugs, as Dan would say, Beth (Toughhummingbird) |
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Doofers, I am sorry for your losses as well. I know what it is like to have that one special person from our childhood that we hold dear in our heart. For me it is a teacher I had. She made a huge difference in my life. I'm sorry about your babysitter. And regarding the gentleman that took his life, I'm sorry for his loss too. Suicide is such a tragedy for the family that is left behind. Like Beth said, he had an illness and that is why he did such a sad, desperate thing. I hope that his family finds peace soon. I will keep you and your friends and family in my thoughts and prayers. tomcat |
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Doofers, I'm so sorry to hear about the losses you have had. Sometimes it's hard to understand why a person would choose to leave this world on purpose. As an African American and Native American, I don't believe that there is a division when people hurt because of a loss of a loved one no matter who it is. There simply is no "race" when it comes to grief. I have recently lost a loved one myself. I know what it feels like. Ther simply are no words that will make you "feel" better about that loss. I pray that as time goes by you will only remember the great things and be able to laugh at the joy that was brought to you by these wonderful friends. God bless you. Hugs, Harambee |
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| | From:  CyndyK2 | Sent: 10/3/2007 11:16 AM |
{{{{{{{{{{{{SANDRA}}}}}}}}}}}}}} I'm so sorry for this double loss in your life, sweetie. The older we get, the more of them we seem to have to deal with, and it never gets any easier. You were fortunate to have the love of your childhood babysitter in your life for so long, and clearly she loved you, and you loved her; that's a special kind of relationship for you to cherish it all these years. It's so sad that your sister's father-in-law felt he couldn't go on anymore and chose to leave this world the way he did. That was extremely selfish of him, and he caused an undue amount of pain to those who loved him. I can only guess he wasn't in his right mind at the time. I hope he's found peace now. And I hope things in your life settle down too, hon. You surely need a stretch of calm for a good long while. Cyndy |
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I UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL I HAVE LOST 2 SISTERS , MY FATHER, MY HUSBAND, AND MY SON'S BEST FRIEND COMMITTED SUICIDE AND THIS YOUNG MAN GREW UP IN MY HOME IT WAS LIKE LOSING ONE OF MY OWN CHILDREN !!!! I AM PRAYING FOR YOU!!! SUSIE |
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When it rains it pours. I've lost so many people in my life, that I can't even begin to list them all. I'm 32 and alone in the world. I look 19, so it's been a rough struggle. Things get better..from a musical known as the secret garden, there is a song called "hold on" and I remember one phrase from it..."It's the storm, not you, that's bound to blow away". We all have dark times in our lives. Things do get better, and time does heal the pain. Hope you get to that point soon. Until then, take care of yourself, and send flowers and cards to all those people. It does help. |
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| | | From: Litchuk | Sent: 10/4/2007 5:02 PM |
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Hi Again Noid,
First you are NOT alone; as long as there is someone here there is a light for anyone in darkness. I am 37 it was at 32 my life changed to what it is now. All I can say life is a struggle when you ill double it when you’re in pain!
_James
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