Diane, thanks for sharing with me.  I suspect that there are many people who feel as we do, but are afraid to say so.  What you and I are experiencing goes far beyond the vacuous platitude about how she's in a better place, at least now she's not suffering, blah, blah, blah.  I also suspect that when people say those things, whilst they are probably trying to be supportive and positive, they are also manifesting their own, unresolved familial issues.

 

It's an understatement to say that life, within and outside of the family is so complicated.  It helps, especially for you and me, that we don't have any unresolved issues with our mothers.  It is much easier to feel the blessing of their passing when we found our way to a mature and honest relationship during our time together.

 

By the by, nice to hear from you.