I also send up prayers you you and yours for your loss. what  Idid for my mother was set up a trail of light for her by lighting candles and chanting a prayer and walked up the trail while blowing out each candle as I passed them and that helped me.

  My mom passed on when I was a young girl...and I had a hard time coping with it as she was the only one I had to listen to me. So I would go to her grave every morning and send prayers on the smoke...then would talk to her. At times I felt her there and knew I would never be alone. I am a old woman now but still need her advice and I still go to her often..... so always remember her in your prayers and talk to her in that way. You will find your answer ...Hugs Annie

Beauty

 

It is so hard to loose someone we Love, My heart says a number of things, if you have no one close to share this time with, then take tobacco, and offer a song to her,

if you have someone to share with, circle up and each one share a memory of her and celebrate her life and all that she has give you. I know that she is glad to know that she touched your life in such a special way, she is still with you in Spirit.

 

Prayers to you my sister, blessings on your walk, Wado for being with us

 

Rena' Woman with Loving Heart

 Dear Beauty of Wolf Eyes, it takes time for the healing process to end.

In my humble opinion mourning definetly is a healing process. I am in mourning too.

 I lost a very dear friend to cancer a year ago. I used to take him on road trips. Sometimes to the mountains and other times to the water (Puget Sound)

 I often do things that reminds me of Larry & Spud and I have to laugh. When I made him a things, I knew that he liked it when he said, "that's a dandy".

I know that it's much more dificult to lose a relative but Larry was just like a brother to me. As a matter of fact the last words he said to me before he died was," I'll be seeing you brother." That was the only time Larry called me brother in the intire time I knew him. Spud was a dignitary of the Nooksack tribe and Master Carver. He's received thousands of dollars for his work. (one piece) Out of all the people to ask help him work on his last totem pole, he ask me. I was so humbled by this that I was speechless for a moment. This is such an honor that "how could I say no". I find that when I miss someone I burn some sage & sweetgrass and remember all the good times we had together. Their memories will live on in our hearts throughout our living days until it's time for us to meet them on the other side.

Sorry about the responce time but I just join the other day. Hope to chat with you in the Wakan chat circle some time. to hi du (Good peace) Eagle Heart

Dear Beauty_Of_Wolf_Eyes  I didn't see your request for ideas to help in your mourning until now but mourning doesn't end on the anniversay so maybe you can use this idea at a later time when you are having a sad day.  My children's father died in 2000 when they were 9, 12, and 14 years old so mourning was hard for them since they really didn't know how.  For the funeral I ordered three helium balloons to be sent with the flowers to be around the casket.After the funeral was over the kids took the balloons and attached farewell notes they had wrote and they released them to take their love to their Dad.  Even now after all these years and their having grown up they still send up balloons on Father's Day and their dad's birthday, they ever get one for their little sister,who didn't beong to him.  While working in a flower shop I blew up a lot of balloons for people who said they were taking them to a gravesite.  Just don't try this in very cold weather because cold makes the helium shrink.  My prayers and thoughts are with you, remember she would want you to remember the good times and not mourn for too long, she wouldn' want you sad.   Flossie