Hi Belrose and Vera, thanks for listening. I'm feeling a little calmer now.

In answer to your questions Vera---the Father is a P, I never realised this until a few years ago when I was researching info about Ps due to eldest son. I was only with him for a few years but unfortunately long enouugh to have 2 children. The eldest now 18, I left behind in the UK 2 years ago when we migrated here to Oz--sounds awful dosen't it----a mother leaving her son behind but the final straw was --he broke into our house and had be by the throat with a crow bar. The younger son has always been trouble and hasn't a genuine bone in his body----this was evident years ago. I just hoped that getting him away from his brother would make some difference but I was wrong. Since we have been here he has been in so much trouble with the Police--but they still keep telling me what a nice boy he is. He broke in to his friends house, has damaged property,stole from shops etc etc. He sees himself as a victim in all this and denies it all and has never shown any remorse as he never admits to any of it.

He basically does whatever he wants and I have very little control over him. He is so manipulative and acts in situations the way he knows e should---but it is all an act.

The final straw was I took him to get a mobile phone. He claims he was attacked a few weeks ago and they stole his phone---I didn't believe him-----I dont believe anything he tells me as he is a pathological liar. I ended up paying twice as much as I wanted for this phone and then got him some credit for it. The following day whilst I was in the garden he went into our bedroom---found my handbag(which is always hidden as he steals anything) and went into my purse and stole $100-----I just couldnt believe it after what I had just done for him. No wonder he looked so happy on his way out and even said bye to me and he wouldnt be late home and all the while he had that money in his pocket. I realised about an hour later that the money was gone and I rang him and asked for it back but he simply replied---I've spent it. There was no apology, no remorse nothing. Hubby knows nothing about this as he would throw him out even though he is only 16. I am still shocked but I know things will get worse.

Kel

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