My partner has girl and guy friends and thats all they are..
He has spent an hour having coffee downtown at Tim Horton's with one of "our" lady friends,why you may ask?..She is a married mom in her early 30's and wanted to vent about her husband, and she needed a man's advice on the subject..Top is quit good at listening and can give the men's prospective and his advice on things..
If I have to vent about things I don't have a guy or a girl friend that I can talk to about it because I have great difficulty trusting other people and their advice. That started when I was a kid growing up in a household where the mother didn't give a damn and didn't want to hear it..The father was my venting board and he didn't give all that great of advice..Actually he always sided with the other person whom I was venting about be it male or female...
Now if my partner and his lady friend crossed the line and started spending more time with each other then I'd have to say..Get your gear and go live with her seeing that you are sooooo happy with each other..
Everybody has faults...
I think when 2 people..male and female can be friends that's great, everyone needs the advice from someone..but when a friendship goes beyond that and they start spending more and more time together and forgetting about the other person in the picture ( married partner) that's when they crossed that tight little line from being friends into something more, where they are now emotionally linked to each other..Now the marriage that he or she once had stops and the hate and inuendo between them starts..Leading to the partner with the (lady or male) friend becoming closer and closer and eventually the marriage is dissolved..
My parents were one case in point..another just happened to a good friend (male) of ours here in town..So it does happen..