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I thought that losing my leg was the worse thing that could happen to me. Boy was I wrong. Watching someone you love slowly slip away and there is nothing you can do is worse than that. The doctor said that he is under a lot of anxiety and thats why he can't remember things anymore. Yesterday he walked around inside in his underware even when my son and daughter in law where here. He siad he couldn't get his pants on. This morning I had to help him put pj bottoms on. He needs me to help him get out of his chair and bed now. He won't eat. I am afraid now that he won't make it until his first chemo. He makes absolutely no sence when he does talk. This morning he kept asking me did I rinse. What in the heck did that mean? He kept getting madder and madder at me because he he thinks I just don't want to help him. Finally he told me that what he wanted was help to get his foot rest up in his chair. He couldn't pull it. I feel so selfish in that I am getting so very worn out by doing all of this and keeping the house clean and taking care of the dog and the birds. He sure can't drive and I can't get ito his account at the bank to draw money out for the bills because it only in his name. I can't even go to my bank and get money out because I don't have a identification. They won't take my birth certificate because its from Germany and a copy. So now I have to write to the state department to get another birth certificate. In the meantime I can't get to any money because I can't get Jerry out. I've got 2 checks for 1000.00 and can't do anything with them because I have no ID. And so the fun goes on. |
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Hi, I hope that you don't mind that I am responding to this. I went thru the same thing with my Grandpa who passed away in Jan. I had to help him go to the bathroom and all that stuff. And keep the house and also take care of my Grandma. I did all the cooking and cleaning and laundry you name it. I also had to do all the shopping and i do not drive so one of my workers would take me. It will get better...Maybe he is perpared to die. My Grandpa could not swallow even water. And maybe this person in your life is just ready to go to Heaven. if you do not want me to respond please tell me. LacyLou1985 |
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do have the power of attorney papers now and tomorrow I am taking them to the notary at the hospital. I am also getting power of medical attorney tomorrow. I am having so much trouble with his son. He hasn't been around us for 4 years now. He is 23. He chooses to be homeless because he doesn't want to work. Also he is a drunk and does drugs. Well yesterday when I got home he called and said he was comming to my house and I told him no because his dad was in the hopsital. Well his mother called me and told me that he wanted to see his dad to get one of the trucks since he is going to die anyway. He has a new girlfriend and I also found out that she is wanted by the police in New Mexico. Also his son is married but to another woman. He wants the truck so he can steal more. Thats his job. I am so afraid that he will come here now to steal. He knows I can't do much and it takes the police a while to get to my house. Last night he and his girlfriend started walking toward my house but he never came. I am at the end of my rope now and I also have to deal with this. I talked to my son about it and he wants to get me a gun. I just hate that idea. So now I have to sleep on the couch so I can hear what is going on with my cars and his garage. Jerry has a lot of woodworking tools there and his son knows it. He can make a lot of money if he can get hold of them. 5 years ago he stole our can and we didn't find out until 2 in the morning when the police knocked at our door and told us our car was in a parking garage downtown.
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| | | From: KiwiPam | Sent: 5/28/2008 10:20 AM |
I think you should call the police and tell them about this threat, because that is what it is, a threat. I'm sure the police would be interested knowing his background and record. Also would be interested in the fact that his girlfriend is wanted. Can you get someone to stay with you while hubby is in hospital? Sorry to hear about this situation - it's bad enough you being stressed out without this happening at the same time. Huggies, KiwiPam |
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The pet scan came back and he has tumors in his lungs, adreanal glands, brain and now liver. He started radiation yesterday and will have them every day for 3 weeks. Then we go to chemo. |
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| He came home from the hospital yesterday afternoon. They gave him a nabalizer and told him how to use it. Of course he couldn't remember so I spent the better part of the morning figuring it out. I am the worse person to do mechanical things or put things together. Everything is such a fight right now. He can't remember and so he gets mad when I don't understand. I have to repeat myself a hundred times it seems like. Also I have to explain things to him over and over. The same things because he doesn't remember. Also right now he is trying to do too much. He won't let my son help him much so he is giving up asking if he needs help. Of course then he complains that no one helps him. I can handle most of it but sometimes I just have to go to the bedroom and cry. Then I feel better. | |
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boy it has been a while since I brought everything up to date. He has finished his radiation treatments now and has had one chemo scession. They kept telling us that the first one would be hard. Also the effects don't take place until 7-10 days later. During that time he was doing really well and seemed to be getting better. But at the end of last week he started going downhill again. He can't walk without getting dizzy. He is shaky and sleeps a lot. We go to the doctor tomorrow and I think I need to talk to she about oxygen for him. He has also lost his hair now. It started comming out in clumps that really looked bad so I made him go to the barber to shave it off. That was better. Also most everybody has stopped calling now. The first scary part is over and they have their lives to live. So its me and him alone. During this time I have learned a lot. I can do things I never thought I could do. I can carry in groceries! I haven't done that since I lost my leg. But now I have to and it is going well for me. Last night we were in bed and I put my arms around him and he felt like a bag of bones. I miss my husband. |
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So I got a phone call at 5 this morning from the hospital. It was his nurse. He told me that he always calls his patients family about that time for an update.It scared me to death to get that call. I think everybody know what went through my mind. Anyway he said he has no lung capacity left at all due to the pneumonia. If he doesn't improve in a coupld of days they will put in a trach tube. He also had a cathether put in because he had a hard time when he had to go to the bathroom and got very stressed out and his breathing naturally was affected. It took 3 hours to get him calm again. He also has medicine to keep him calm now. Thats a blessing. On top of everything else when I got home yesterday my door was open. I thought I might have left it open by accident but my daughter in law said she knows I locked it because she held the screen door for me while I was locking it. Nothing is missing or messed up. So now I can't lock my front door because it was popped open with something. I am afraid to find out what will happen next. I am also afraid that someone will break in while I am gone. Yogi, my dog is really mean but he is just a weinnie dog and I am afraid they will hurt him to get into the house. |
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I forgot to mention that he is in intensive care right now due to a big pneumonia on his good lung. |
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