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Help! I am what I guess most of you would call a transgendered woman. The trouble is that I no longer identify as transgendered. I don`t feel it`s a part of me anymore. I live my life 100% as a lesbian woman. Unlike some transgendered people, I don`t try to shove a trans personality in other people`s faces - "Yes, I`m transsexual, you got a problem with that?" I can`t abide that `chip on their shoulder` attitude. So what I would like to know is - where can I go socially where I will be accepted as a lesbian woman, and not have backs turned on me because of what I`m still perceived to be? The local lesbian scene seems to me to be too cliquey for me to fit into. Am I going to find that attitude everywhere? I don`t fancy Club Wotever, it`s just not `me`. I am a fem lesbian, not a m2f transsexual. |
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I don't know what music you are into but I would try the goth scene. They are the most open minded people I have ever met. They don't care what you look like, what clothes you have, your sexual preferances or anything. I've been to lesbian clubs and felt left out, go to a goth club and they seem to welcome you with open arms, you just have to get used to the music lol |
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What a good idea! I`ll give that some thought. Thanks. |
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| | From: pooks0 | Sent: 11/30/2005 7:28 AM |
Hi,Weepingwillow,sorry not to reply sooner. It's never easy to bare your soul to people & I admire anyone who has the courage to do this. I'm sure you'll get a huge welcome in this group. I've been here for nearly 3 years & love the way members are so caring & friendly & supportive. It's been my lifeline. We all come to the place where we are with very different & varied histories. What is important in life is to find a place where you feel comfortable, where you can be who you are without prejudice, without judgement of any kind. I find it very sad that anyone would seek to look at you as transgendered. You have found where you need to be in life. You are a lesbian, no different to anyone born in a female body.For me, this whole journey into realising who I am, has been a very painful, yet very exciting one. I've lost alot along the way in just 3 years, but I have gained so much more in the most important way...self-knowledge.And, I like who I am now! But it's not easy. Where I live, I can't be "out", also for my childrens' sake, so I have to hide a large part of who I am too. I'm waffling on now,sorry, but really just wanting to say a big "welcome to the group". Pookie. |
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Thank you, Pookie. I too have found that since I finally accepted myself for who I am, less than 4 years ago, my life has become so much happier. I`m got more self-confidence and more self-esteem. Why do we try to conform to how society wants us to be? |
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