I feel for you, I will be in same situation in the summer, our son is ten and although have not discussed with him yet, as he is older he must know what is going on. The only advice I can give and would love to hear advice myself, is stress to the children that you both love them very much, they will continue to see father but that you and he have decided to live apart as you are not happy at the moment. I possibly wouldnt even say you dont love him anymore, just that sometimes grown ups are happier in two houses than one. Children think in the here and now and their imediate concerns could be they have done something wrong or you dont love then or dad does not love them anymore. I'd give lots of reasureance and last bit of advice, dont say too much about situation. Answer questions as they come up, answer only whats asked and give the opportunity for them to ask and talk to you, but they are very young, they dont need too much info and in the weeks to come, try to make sure they get to see their dad and get the reasurance they need for him. Hopefully it will work out and you will be happy in the long term. It has been said to me and I hope its true but children are amazingly resiliant and if they see you happy I think they will be ok.

Benn in the same situation a few years ago , the kids dad is a great dad but was a lousey husband. We have both moved on , hes happy with his new fiance , im happy with my partner , the kids are happy with the situation, mine were 6, 4 and 3 when i kicked him out. If they ask question just give them the truth as much as their ages will take.

Good luck hunnie and i hope it works out for you

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Thx for your help. Good advice hmmm. Unfortunately the flat he was going for has fallen through so he is still here grrrrrr !  But I am keeping my fingers for the next one, hopefully soon ....