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| | From: KookyKeelz (Original Message) | Sent: 3/13/2006 10:40 PM |
Where do I start lol? I just told my parents/older sisters & close friends that I'm bi...They were all great (5 yrs of worrying for nothing!What a waste of time! ha ha!) but..my mum doesnt want all our nieghbours knowing as she thinks my little brothers n sisters will get picked on.... But thats pretty hard because some of my nieghbours are my mates...I go to a gay club with one of them, a gay male, but he has the biggest mouth ever, so I cant even tell him and have to pretend I'm straight in a gay club (not good when hot girls are chatting me up and I have to say I'm straight!).... but I live in one of those gossipy places where everyone knows your buisness..but I just want to be open, be me! But I feel selfish now for wanting to be open cause I'm worrying about the litle uns... It's like I'm at a brick wall. Any ideas? I was wondering if i leave it till my mum gets her head round it, then tell her it's tough I cant keep living a lie... |
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| | From: pooks0 | Sent: 3/17/2006 7:36 AM |
Hi Kooky, I can totally understand where you're coming from. I came out by accident ,although it was the best thing that could've happened, two years ago. My friends have been great & my immediate family too, but certainly, with my parents, especially my Mum,it's on the surface only. I'm really glad they are able to talk to me about my sexuality, but my Mum has made it clear that she wouldn't be happy for other family members to know, nor her friends. I've accepted this,as she doesn't live too close & let her know that I would never compromise her, but there is a sadness around it too. For you, it's harder as you sound as if you live in a neighbourhood with your family & friends. I don't really think I'm giving you any advice here, sorry, except to say, give it time. Be comfortable with who you are. Thats the best start in getting others to accept.I know many people have a very tough time over family issues & my heart goes out to anyone in that situation, Pooks. |
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If you feel you can trust someone then I`d say go ahead if you feel you want to and tell them. But only if you`re sure of their trust. That`s really a shame, that you can`t tell your gay friend. Why should you live a lie in a gay club when you`ve started to come out in your personal life. If a girl is sufficiently keen on you to chat you up, I`d be inclined to say yes if she asks you. If this guy asks questions, just tell him she`s a friend. But giving your mum some time first is good. Give her a chance to get used to the idea. |
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Thanks for your replies! yeah I'm just going to give her some time to get used to it...because if I meet someone who I really like then I'll want to be open about it, and hold hands etc, I wont want to hide it. |
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Well my Mum is finally cool with it! Most people know now and are all brilliant! |
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