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I'm very new to all this, I would still class myself as bi curious......... I've been attracted to women for many years, but have never done anything about it before..... I have just started a relationship (of sorts) with a woman who i have been friends with for a couple of years online.... we are now phoning each other and texting each other and a meet up is iminent... But i am worried that i am reading too much into it.... She sends me hugs and kisses over the phone and she's always very flirtatious.

I must admit I am very worried.... lots of questions going through my head and nobody to ask them too.... so i will ask here, i am sorry if my words are clumsy, i dont mean to offend anyone.

How will I know if she's attracted to me?

How will i know what to do?

What if i really like sex with another woman?

what if i enjoy it more than with a man?

Do i tell my children i'm bi?

Do i tell my friends?

I know these questions probably seem very stupid to some of you.... but i am so confused at the moment and dont know where to turn to.......... I used to ask this women friend these things but find that i cant now because they are about her.

Thankyou for taking the time to read this,

HI,LAURA, WELCOME TO THE GROUP!

Hi Laura....welcome to the group

I know it's not that helpful but I don't think anyone but you can answer those questions....if it's right you'll know...and if it doesn't feel right...don't do it!

I've told some of my friends...but only the ones that I knew would be ok and although I haven't told my kids yet, I will - at a time that feels right for them and me. I can understand your confusion and all the questions, I came out about 4 years ago and had lots of similar questions...the best advice I have is to stick around here...there are some great ladies here with lots of good advice...and to give it time and try not to worry about it too much.

Hope you have fun with us

Thankyou for the advice ladies,

I guess this is something i have to find out myself...... but i must admit, it's not so scarey when you have other people to talk to that have been through the same thing.

My name is actually Caroline Laura as i said on general, but my kids have access to the other account, and i dont think i'm ready for my children to know about my sexuality just yet, so i think its time to introduce myself properly.

Hi, I'm Caz, pleased to meet you,

Thankyou for the advice girls,

but it seems that i dont need the help after all..... it seems that i read the signs wrong.The other night that friend of mine texted me and told me all about a date she was going on...... and then she texted me again the next morning to tell me how well her date went.

So it seems like all that worry and confusion was for nothing...... So why am i so gutted?

I guess it will happen when its right and not before.

Thanks again for all your help,

Hi Caroline, I really feel for you as a wee while ago I asked myself the same questions that you are now asking. "What if I really like sex with another woman" .... I certainly found that a scarey one too! And as things turned out, for me the answer was yes to that question and the next one too ....lol. But again, for me it was without a doubt the best thing. As yet I haven't told my kids (they are very young) nor have I told any of my friends. I did tell my brother and he was and still is great. I have not changed, I am still his wee sister so it makes no difference to him ..... and it would make no difference to the ppl who are truely your friends.

Please be assured that your questions are in no way stupid..... many, many woman have been in your situation. If you don't mind me giving a wee bit of advice, just take your time, there is no rush and as my grandmother used to say " What is for you, won't go passed you " !! lol

were all here for you, we've all been there and we still read the signs wrong, my friend of 15 years just told me shes in love me, and had fancied me from day one, but i never knew... shes been married twice and only last week she said she wants to marry her latest man, she only told me this when i said i was going away this weekend with an ex girlfriend. so life will always throw surprises at you and its all part of living, so just take one day at time, and do what feels right.

Take care love Dor x

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