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Ok... I have a problem that I hope someone can help me on. My gf is not into sex. Now that is not just with me, its' with any and everyone she's been with. Now I knew this before getting with her, but it really is starting to have an affect on me. So I am asking what I can do to help her get into the mood. She doesn't mind pleasing me, but I feel that sex is more to it than just ME getting off. I feel it's a bond that two people that love each other share. Well I could be wrong, so help me out ladys... what am I to do. |
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really sorry to say that my mother said you need to be a wiz in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom.Men are built differentl to ladies and you need to look after whatever your mans need are thats your job as a women. Women can be selfish none of my men would ever cheat on me they get everything they need at home, thats the way it should be |
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i don't know if i can help but i'll give it a go..............Have you spoken to her to find out why she doesn't like sex, there has to be a reason! Does she like kissing and cuddling, if so just do this for a while the slowly progress to other things say give her a massage, so you get to touch her without it being sexual, then as long as she is happy continue it, so that you are touching her in places that feel good to her. Make her feel really special as a person, lots of compliments ect but not just at the times when she is pleasing you. This may help, but if not it's worth a go. Just remember some people just really don't like sex Good luck xxx |
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the more you concentrate on trying to make her enjoy sex, the more withdrawn she'll become, and the harder it'll be to build up any kind of sexual relationship in the future. forget about sex for now. pretend your both young teens, concentrate on kissing and cuddling (and don't let it go any further), do stuff together, even if its only walking or watching tv. do stuff for her, cook the tea, run a bath, someone else suggested massage (again, don't let it go any further yet) let her gain trust with you, a non sexual bond that is stronger than anything you could find sexually. it will take time, months, maybe more, but keep re-assuring, keep building the bond. let her know that you want the relationship to be sexual, but you are willing to wait. tell her that if and when she wants to try, that you want to take it slowly, don't rush in, just a little further at a time. it may be that something has happened to put her off sex, and with time and effort you can help her heal from it. or it may be she just simply does not like sex. then you have to decide if you can live with that, and if doing other thing can keep you close, build that bond. good luck to you both jan x |
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