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| | | From: Ms Kelly (Original Message) | Sent: 1/17/2005 7:16 PM |
I meant to ask this a while back but Im remembering it now.. I don't even know how to begin this?? its no big deal but anyway... Since coming out as a lesbian to yourself and then once you felt abit more settled about it,you start to investigate it more...( you know).... how did you start to feel about the way you looked to yourself and the outside world as time went on?? ( your image ) There is this thing about lesbians and tattoos and body piercings and a whole host of other cliches too but everyone is doing tattoos and doing the body piercing thing now, its not just a particular community of people... I think what Im trying to say is,the more you became more settled about yourself ,I wonder if anyone found themselves changing their image...for example, you once had long hair but now its short,you made little adjustments like your jewellery, you once were into gold (because it was bought for you or just because you thought you liked it??) and now its all silver and leather bracelets etc. You clothes have gradually changed too?? and orther little sublime changes.. Is this because of the company kept?? have they bought little things for you!? and also the need to conform and look the "part" because if you don't, you basically get disbelief that your a lesbian?? shallow as it may seem sorry..or is it because you have found atlast who you rightfully are and are not dressing to be that person who you always knew you were not ,its called "fitting in" I suppose... Does age make a difference in all this too?? I mean I know for a fact that looks are not the absolute truth of a person but often first impressions do last for many of us sometimes... Talking for myself about this, I look atleast 70% "femme"( I dislike that word femme!) my hair just past my shoulders, all the usual female traits...plus Im all 30% tomboy, but that sounds silly to say that even. I know Im a tomboy, but what does that mean anymore?? I would think nothing of getting my hands dirty, Im all for going round maplins electronics instead of a clothes shop at times.. hope this makes sense to you all, thanks for reading, any comments apprecitated. thankyou. |
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What is there to prove? I am who I am and decided early last year to stop letting people walk all over me and tell me what to do etc. It has been a long hard haul but I am slowly getting there and have, in the past year, come out to all my close friends and my immediate family, everyone has been fantastic. You are so right about dressing how you wanna dress and not letting people tell you otherwise as I have been a lot happier in recent months than I have in years. I feel like me again, if that makes sense. Meesh |
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i am always right lol do u av messenger? coz it is eaisier to talk init?
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| | | From: Jazzie | Sent: 6/27/2005 10:34 AM |
I never think about what i wear, i just wear how i feel on a particular day, so could be a skirt and girly type top, or it could be jeans and vest top. I do have a couple of tattoo's and piercings (ears and belly) but then do so many ppl women these days, i have long hair coz thats how i like it, but its usually in a pony tail, and i wear whatever jewelry i think matches what im wearing. If i had to put a label on myself i suppose id say im 80% femme but i dont like labels. Where as on the other hand my best mate, always wears jeans and what some might caller butcher type tops and she's straight . I think if you stood us together and asked ya average Joe in the street, ok pick the lesbian from these 2 women, theywould pick her pick everytime  Jaz x |
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LOL Great reply Jazzie Ive always dressed the way i wanted to , always been a tom boy , even when married i wore jeans and tshirts etc ... i only got my first tattoo when i turned 30, closely followed by piercings and another tattoo and then i came out. This day and age you should feel comftable in what ever you wear. Its not the clothes or tattoos that make the woman but whats inside. |
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Ok, I have dramatically changed my appearence ( for the betta I would say) I used to do the long blonde hair and the barbie doll thing ( maybe not the boobs and the camper van tho, or ken come to think of it, oopppssss sorry, going off a bit here , back to the subject lol) I feel comftable now and not bothered about what people think about me ( what I look like that is) Mmmmmmm, I would have to say I am a cross between sporty spice and eminem now lmao ( cant do back flips or rap tho  ) HUgs Chez xxxx  |
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CHEZ,YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN SAFE WITH KEN. HE HAD NO "MEN BITS"!!! |
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hi all unfortunatly i would be what most ppl class as butch looking and very stereotypical too. as im big with short hair and am always always with out exception in trousers and shirts. having said that i dont actually remember a time when i was all girly lol i have always worn what i feel comfatable in and that wont change but i have noticed over the years i buy clothes that do make me look alot more butch than i should but as i always say who cares what u wear as long as your clean and smart then the clothes dont distract from the fab person i am tee hee |
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Why Unfortunalty hun ??? Theres seems to be a lot of call for butch women and a real shortage of them, so good for you babe xxxxxxxxxxxxxx hugs Chez xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx |
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I went to a gay club on sat nite and all the women besides a couple of feminine looking girls looked the same, they all had the same jeans, the same trainers, the same vest tops and the same black spikey hair with blonde tips, thought Id walked in on the stepford wives Hugs Chez xxxx |
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It has been interesting reading comments as recently I have been told that I do not look lesbian and therefore will have a hard time finding a lady to love, sorry but this scares me as my 17 year marraige is coming to an end and the thought of being on my own is frightening, I know I have a long way to go before I can be me, but inside for the first time I am comfortable with me and feel normal, sorry thats a bit whingy but I don't want to change my outward appearence in order to attract a partner in the future. God that sounds so shallow, I'm sorry, its just can some one tell me what does a lesbian look like for heavens sake, I guess I could always wear a pink triangle badge or a rainbow, maybe adopt a secret handshake, sorry, guess really insecure, sorry for woffling xx  |
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Hello Chillyb1972 Thanks for reading and for the post, I created this thread a while back and it's created quite alot of replies. I think this is something that's been asked so many times over years and years and maybe always will...'what does a lesbian look like?? looks can be very contrived... I've been told the same though...'you don't look like a lesbian'. One interests me though is personality...women may still assume a delicate?? 'femme' looking woman has a certain kind of personality and a rugged looking woman another type..based purely on appearance. I read that a human when looking at another makes their mind up about them in say 3 seconds!!?? when first seeing them for the first time that is.. Is this true?? It's an interesting one to think about and always gets people talking. thanks |
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| | From:  Fluffa3 | Sent: 12/9/2005 3:41 PM |
Chilly I would say that it sounds as though this person might be the same one who doesnt realise it is ok for women to wear trousers and to go out to work these days - lol Too many people dismiss other people because they dont fall into the stereotype of how they think they should be seen. Tell this person to get a life and I am more than sure you will find a lady who will love you just as you are - remember it's not the wrapping, it's whats going on inside that counts. |
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Hey, im sure given time you will find somone who cares about you. I dont think you should change the way you look. You are you and you want people to love you not an image you put up.
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Just been re reading old threads around here.. interesting to look back on.. The update on my looks is the same. I still have my just past shoulder length hair or sometimes on my shoulders.Still have dark brown hair. I'm still femme 'ish' but I have altered alot over the last 6 to 12 months with what I wear. It's sublime changes but I'm being 'me'. That's all that matters. Get told I'm a tomboy more now and will be having one piece of body piercing very soon hopefully. Just wanted it done,not to copy or be noticed,just cos' I like it,. It's just for me. Ms K |
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