hi there
im 27 and my girl is 25,we have been together for 2 yrs and 3 months now.we are very happy we live apart but thats fine for now for us.
we both had female and male partners before we both met,she had 2 boyfriends b4 she met me she was also seeing her female friend with an ex too although shes been gay for yrs even longer than me..anyway she got pregant by 2 men ex's and had 2 abortions,she regrets the second one as he was her last ex and they are best mates and she has never told him,she broke with him cos she loves him as a mate and she realised she prefered women,however she now is getting broody and wishes she hadnt had that abortion as she wants that ex to be a donar as he has good genes and they are friends,the thing is she hasnt discup ssed this with him that she wants him to be a donar as she has heard him say he doesnt want kids.She says he is into his work too much,he has a top job that he works all time and kids would way him down...he is moving soon so she needs to tell him what she wants.There is no way she loves him in that way though she loves him as a mate,she is worried also about having a child as shes had the abortions and the risks are higher her miscarrying.
i am getting really broody and i have a male friend who said to me a few months ago that he would be the father of my child,ive got the problem of the fact he used to fancy me and i had a fling with him briefly and i dnt want him to hold a torch for me or the child should i take his offer up of being a donar for me...another male friend of mine would be ideal for me,hes my best mate and has no ties himself,hes getting on also and prob wants kids himself,he knows me inside out.
he has told me to go to a donar bank and choose a donar for me and my girl,as i was telling hima bout this ex of my girls who she wants a kid with or have my girls brothers sperm,inpast that maybe i should carry the kid fr her with her ex's donar,but that would feel real strange to me as its her ex.
im feeling really broody and confused at the thought of wanting a baby so strongly,i didnt expect to feel this way,ive told her i feel this way and we are gona discuss it this week as she nows knows how i feel at this moment in time.
she wasnt ready to live with anyone either so i dont know if she will be ever ready,will she walk away if i have a baby?
cos the rel is great the way it is at the moment and as ive nev been here b4 i dnt know which way to go for the best. i alsways just thought id have a kid with aman the normal way so to spk but now me and my girl are togethr and happy its crept across me without preparing me!
anyone whocan advise me please?!
cheers
redheadedbabexx