Identifying Patterns
TBritton : may i share an emotion I had the other day
One other thing.... If that person that called me an idiot and if i read him i would actually hear "I think i'm an idiot". Would i react to hearing that differently than I reacted to you are an idiot? We feel, we react, but we are also readers. We have to balance those things and going through an experience and looking it over
will train your mind to see those truths quicker. If someone says... your an idiot I quickly go thru my programming and decide if I choose to own that comment. I can also decide to hear "I think i'm an idiot" and respond with I think your very bright and smile.
TBritton : you reminded me of an ill emotion I experienced last weekend. I had gone to pick up my halloween costume i had reserved about 3 weeks prior and after waiing in line... they said they had mistakenly given it away to someone else. Which meant pandora's matching costume was pointless as well. I was furious and left quite annoyed. I was nice in the store, but inside I was IRATE! As i was driving I came to realize that i was upset over a velvet piece of clothing that a costume, was in full controll of my emotions. And I decided then, that i would no longer allow "things" to dictate my emotions
intense_female : TB do you have a button about "Fairness"?
TBritton : yes,
intense_female : so... what i saw is something was unfair but you were hesitant to express it, you held it then blew it. Were you treated unfairly before and were not able to express it? Its your fairness trigger and something that happend probably as a child.
TBritton : I do have a fairness issue
intense_female : where you were not treated fairly and not aloud to be angry about it
TBritton : never treated fairly! lol
intense_female : ahhh and not allowed to be angry right? Just shut up this is how it is?
TBritton : i talked funny, and wore walmart shoes
intense_female : and afraid to stand up for yourself?
TBritton : yes
intense_female : Ok there it is, go find it and reprogram it.
TBritton : hrm...that ain't gonna be easy
intense_female : and ?
TBritton : which event do I uses, there were many
intense_female : btw TB That aint gonna be easy
sounds limiting, you already decided its hard
TBritton : lol. yes, but i'm smiling