...was just wondering why it is that females who are bi or discover they've really been in the closet for many yrs about their true feelings for womyn almost always end up being married (TO MEN) and have such guilt about wanting to leave their marriages??? I'm sure it would be different if it were reversed. I've been married 3 times (to men), had a few earlier relationships with females in my 20's and feel totally stuck now in my last marriage because of circumstances. I've been slowly trying to come out the last few yrs, unsuccessfully though...life ....who knows...seems like I'm getting to an age in my life now which is way too terrifying to change it. I also have 4 kids at home still from teens to 20's and my work is totally tied in with my husband as we have a business together....frustrated...