 HELLO,EVERYONE! YOU'VE PROBABLY BUMPED INTO ME IN THE GROUP SOMEWHERE,BUT I WANTED TO LET YOU ALL KNOW WHO I AM-NOW THAT I HAVE FOUND OUT FOR MYSELF!  MY NAME IS JULIE.I'M 44 YEARS OLD. I HAVE 3 CHILDREN-ANGHARAD(18);RHIANNON(15) AND GERAINT(11). ANGHARAD HAS A DAUGHTER WHO WILL BE 2 IN NOVEMBER,SHE'S OUR LITTLE ANGEL,AND HER NAME IS CHANTELLE.
 I WAS OFFICIALLY DIVORCED ON JULY 29TH,2004,FOLLOWING 19 YEARS OF MARRIAGE,WHICH I DESCRIBE AS CHINESE WATER TORTURE. MY EX-HUSBAND CONTINUALLY MADE ME FEEL WORTHLESS AND I ENDED UP TAKING MEDICATION FOR DEPRESSION. THINGS WENT DOWNHILL GRADUALLY,BUT THINGS SPEEDED UP OVER THE LAST FEW YEARS.HE MOVED INTO THE SPARE ROOM,WHICH SUITED ME FINE.ONE NIGHT,HE CAME IN AFTER A DRINKING SESSION WITH HIS MATES,AND WAS VERY VERBALLY ABUSIVE,WHICH RESULTED IN HIM KICKING ME,WHICH WAS THE LAST NAIL IN THE COFFIN OF OUR MARRIAGE. RHIANNON WAS SLEEPING AT A FRIEND'S THAT NIGHT,AND GERAINT WAS IN HER BED,SO I WENT UPSTAIRS,CARRIED A SLEPING(AND VERY HEAVY!) GERAINT INTO MY ROOM AND LOCKED US IN. THE NEXT DAY,MY EX ASKED WHY I'D LOCKED THE DOOR. I TOLD HIM HE'D BEEN UNPREDICTABLE AND VIOLENT. HE SAID IT WAS THE FIRST TIME HE'D EVER DONE THAT(TRUE),BUT THERE'S A FIRST TIME FOR EVERYTHING,RIGHT? HOW DID I KNOW HE WOULDN'T DO IT AGAIN? I WASN'T ABOUT TO GIVE HIM THE CHANCE. I FILED FOR DIVORCE ON DECEMBER 15TH,2003.ONE OF THE BEST THINGS I EVER DID!  I STILL HAD THINGS TO RESOLVE APART FROM HIM; ANGHARAD HAD LEFT HOME AT 15 TO LIVE WITH HER BOYFRIEND(WHO IS A GLOWING RECOMMENDATION FOR THE MALE SPECIES....NOT!!). WE'D CONTACTED THE POLICE,WHO SAID I WASN'T ABLE TO PRESS CHARGES OF STATATORY RAPE(NOT THE STATES,YOU SEE),AS ANGHARAD WAS THE ONE WHO'D HAVE TO BRING CHARGES.SOCIAL SERVICES WERE A WASTE OF SPACE-THEY TOLD US SHE COULD MAKE UP HER OWN MIND AS TO WHO SHE LIVED WITH,I ARGUED THAT SHE WAS 15,AND IF I THREW HER OUT,I'D BE BROUGHT UP ON CHARGES OF NEGLECT!! SO,I HAD TO LET HER GO.THINGS WERE REAL ROCKY WITH HER ,BUT SHE CAME ROUND A BIT LEADING UP TO CHANTELLE'S BIRTH,WHICH I WAS PRESENT FOR,AND I AM VERY GRATEFUL TO HAVE BEEN INVOLVED IN THAT (THANK YOU,ASH ).THINGS TOOK A STEP BACK WHEN I VOICED MY OPINION OF HER BOYFRIEND BEING A JUNKIE/DEALER,AND SHE STAYED AWAY FOR 5 MONTHS. I AM IN CONTACT WITH HER NOW,AND WE ARE TRYING TO KEEP THINGS CIVIL.  AND THEN THERE'S RHIANNON....SHE'S HAD SO MUCH CRAP TO DEAL WITH.GERAINT AND I HAD GONE TO VISIT ELLE.WE'D ONLY BEEN GONE ONE DAY,AND RHI WAS BEATEN UP BY A GANG OF GIRLS. SHE WENT STRAIGHT TO MY MOTHER,WHO CALLED THE EX(STILL MARRIED AT THE TIME),AND WHEN HE ARRIVED,HE REFUSED TO CALL THE POLICE..(?). RHI TOLD ME A FEW MONTHS LATER THAT ALSO,WHILE I WAS AWAY,SHE'D BEEN RAPED. I HAD THE POLICE IN STRAIGHT OFF. SHE HAD TO GO AND HAVE EXTENSIVE EXAMINATIONS AT THE HOSPITAL(UNLIKE ME,BIG,BUXOM WENCH THAT I AM,RHI IS LIKE A WAIF).THE POLICE EVENTUALLY DROPPED THE CASE(INSUFFICIENT EVIDENCE). RHI WAS MORE TRAUMATIZED BY THE FACT THAT HER FATHER DIDN'T BELIEVE HER(PLUS THE ACCUSED WAS A GUY HE WORKED WITH),SO,SHE ATTEMPTED SUICIDE. WHEN SHE WAS RELEASED FROM HOSPITAL SHE WAS PRESCRIBED PROZAC(AT 14)AND PUT UNDER THE CARE OF A PSYCHIATRIST,WHO WAS BRILLIANT WITH HER,AND HE HELPED TO TURN HER LIFE AROUND. SHE IS DOING INCREDIBLY WELL AT SCHOOL AND HER TEACHERS ARE REALLY PLEASED WITH HER NEW FOUND CONFIDENCE AND HER ATTITUDE CHANGE.
 WHAT ABOUT GERAINT? WELL,WHAT ABOUT HIM? YES,THE SPLIT HAS UPSET HIM,BUT AT THE MOMENT,HE SEEMS THE STRONGEST ONE OF US ALL.
 I HAVE HAD THE HELP OF SOME REALLY SPECIAL PEOPLE DURING MY DARKEST DAYS...THERE'S MY BESTEST MATE,JANICE,WHO I'VE KNOWN AND BEEN GREAT FRIENDS WITH FOR OVER 32 YEARS. MY COUSINS,SARAH AND DEBORAH,WHO ARE ALWAYS READY TO LISTEN AND BITCH!
 AND THEN THERE'S ELLE...CATCH UP WITH HER IN PART 2!!
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