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From: ~TOPAZ~  (Original Message)Sent: 8/30/2005 11:09 PM

Every day in every way some-one feels a blow,

Delivered where another knows it isn't going to show.

Ok, there are some bruises, some say 'well I just fell'

They have to lie to others, they're too afraid to tell.

Sometimes when it is really bad they never venture out,

Behind closed doors, their secret kept, the gossip must not mount.

They stay alone and always fear the hand that strikes in temper,

And then they hear the same remorse, 'I'm sorry' but remember

The last times when those words were said after a great attack,

All the gushing comes in vain, you can't give beatings back.

Control and anger part of those who have to have their way,

And need a 'whipping boy' to vent their violence on each day.

Now if you feel someone out there is having all this horror,

Do something.......yes make it today, don't wait until tomorrow.

Received From Gideon By Topaz©



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From: MSN NicknameGemini_Dreamer_11Sent: 8/30/2005 11:14 PM
Topaz
I just had a long drawn out discussion on this very topic with someone form another group about a week ago.  Her view was much less compassionate than yours (Gideon's).  It feels nice to read that others have compassion towards victims of abuse.  I am no longer in an abusive relationship, but the scars remain.  For that reason it feels comforting to hear that others care instead of saying that it was my fault I was assaulted and abused.
Thanks for posting this.  It couldn't have come at a better time for me.
Peace
Lori-ann

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From: MSN NicknameSageHawk6Sent: 8/30/2005 11:58 PM
Hi there Lori-ann
I understand your words and your heart..it is never any ones fault being abused..those who are less compassionate have not been where you or I were or they themselves are in denial. I have complete and total love and compassion for anyone who has been abused in any shape or form as I have been there for too many years..Each experience of abuse I encountered only got worse with each experience. Which also stemmed from my own lack of self esteem and confidence in myself as each abuse only pounds deeper the wound.
Thinking all the time "I must have done something wrong...It was my fault for not being a better person. Fear sets in and you cannot leave for fear of being alone...because the love you have is strong for this person...I will become a better person and then it will stop. He will change." Each time it only gets worse.
 
I had scars Lori ...deep scars however I chose not to be a victim..little by little...step by step and with the help of my guide Standing Stone and others I stepped out of that world and began a new life. By doing this it entailed going within myself and healing those aspects that was in need of healing. One step at a time...I had to search deep and bring those things up that needed healing. First and foremost the child within myself. It is okay to let go now..I am safe..and eventially I did. I spread my wings so wide upon that high mountain top and I took flight. That was the beginning of really feeling free.
  My wounds as well as my  scars have disappeared as they exist no more..and that only came once I realized the true beauty of within myself...of who I truly am..I had a choice as we all do and I choose to be free and to fly in light and love..
Everyday at every moment there is a choice we all must make and I choose not to be a victim..I choose to see my beauty of who I truly am..I choose and I am a Healer of the Heart..
 
So in saying these words to you I ask you..what would you choose? You can place a bandaid over the wound and it will scar..however it will remain until you make that choice not to be a victim. The only medicine for this is by going within ones own self and healing those aspects that are in need of healing for your own highest good as well as for those around you. Take care of you first and the rest will follow all in a good and beautiful way.
 
Peace, Love & Light
Walk In Beauty
Sage xxx

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From: MSN NicknameGemini_Dreamer_11Sent: 8/31/2005 5:38 AM
Sage,
 
I am not a victim anymore.  I am well on my way to being free.
I still have a couple of scars, but not all like a few years ago.  I do understand what you say about going within and healing myself.  That's been my number one priority for about 9 years.  Since I had my first child.  Thanks for the response.  I totally agree with you!
Peace
Lori-ann

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From: MSN NicknameGemini_Dreamer_11Sent: 8/31/2005 5:41 AM
LOL
I meant physical scars, not emotional ones.
woopsie.  I should have been more clear eh?
 
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"I am no longer in an abusive relationship, but the scars remain."

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