If you have married the wrong person do not think that God will not forgive you but you must not continue in sin. I will not tell a true believer to run out and get a divorce. Bear in mind what constitutes scriptural marriage. The Holy Bible uses the specific words, "divorce, divorced" and especially "divorcement" because the terms "put away" and "putting away" are NOT the same thing as "divorce, divorced, and divorcement". Now God is not the author of confusion. So it follows that different words are deliberately used within scripture to address different subjects and different topics. To say all these words are identical and that they all mean precisely the same thing is irrational and confounding.

A marriage certificate does not make for a biblical marriage. There are several examples of what marriage is in the Bible. So bear in mind that one of the essential requirements for truly scriptural marriage under biblical law is that the bride was a virgin or a widow. Scripturally speaking, any woman who had given herself to a man of her own volition for any purpose other than marriage was called an harlot. So when did the law of God change that God should even sanctify a marriage to an harlot? How is it that the Blood of Jesus is able to wash away the union of a harlot to a sinner but not a piece of paper endorsed by Caesar? Ungodly union is not marriage in the eyes of God. What makes for a godly union if joining an harlot in legal matrimony does not? Surely the saints of God know the answer and I do not believe that it is ink and paper that make the marriage anymore than it is the utterance of false vows from the mouths of the children of Belial.

Evidently there is a distinction between what so many call "Moses Law" and the Spirit of the Law. I am not saying that those ladies who did not marry as virgins must now get a divorce to be saved anymore than I am saying that those who married in the flesh (and not in the spirit) are required to end their marriage. Surely we know that the world is full of harlots who have repented. I would think our churches also have no shortage of whoremongers (and adulterers) who have repented. What I do find amazing is how so many would yet return to "Moses Law" to say, "it is not lawful for you to be with your spouse". God forgives. Examine your hearts before God. Why is the law of the flesh so important then, when it cannot even save us? If any of us would judge our brother or sister in this matter we would also do well to judge according to the Spirit and not according to the flesh. If you judge your brother or sister according to the Mosaic Law prepare for the Judgment to come upon you also, O thou that judgest. Is your flesh so perfect? Judge righteously.

Brother, have you indeed taken another man's wife? This is adultery. It is a sin and it should be dealt with. I do not care what any piece of paper from the government says about it. (I don't believe God does either.) The bottom line is that you have either taken another man's wife or you have not. If you are truly the Lord's anointed you already know that examining your heart before God should tell you if she is the wife of another man. Even if she only has a contract endorsed by a man who never knew Jesus none of it can constitute biblical marriage if she is unsaved and does not satisfy the Mosaic Law. The letter of the law kills. It is the Spirit that gives life. But if you are saved there is still no divorce in the LORD. We cannot expect God to sanction divorce that divorce should be a holy thing. It is not holy.

She is either the wife of another man or she is not. Listen to Jesus. If you receive no witness from Him then surely something is wrong in the spirit. If she is not the wife of another and you married her in salvation then you are not permitted to put her away without cause. Yes, Jesus says there is a cause. People interpret this cause to mean all sorts of things without even consulting the Lord. How sad that brothers and sisters in the Lord are so desirous to rid themselves of their spouses even to say that divorcement is essential to salvation! The only thing you need to divorce to be saved is the devil and his world. Are they not already divorced from God, or do we embrace them also?

Now the scripture will not contradict scripture and there is no scripture that should be "thrown away" as some would have us to do. Many saints are married to women who were once harlots before they repented and got saved and this is not sufficient cause to put away a faithful wife. Yes, you are required to love her even as Christ loves the church.

Sister, are you indeed "lawfully" married or are you merely pretending that at no time did you ever give your chastity to another? If not, is that "other" in the grave? Yes, God will forgive you but you cannot continue in sin. If Mosaic Law is what you believe in, then you do surely condemn yourself. A divorce is suitable for those who would judge others according to the law of the flesh and any husband is better off divorced than married to a legalist who believes that their works will justify them. I have little tolerance for those who attempt to judge others when they, themselves, are incapable of even satisfying Old Testament law, such as the tokens of virginity, while boasting of the law. Get right with God.

Neither a marriage certificate nor a divorcement will restore your virginity. If you are indeed the wife of another man you should know this when you examine your heart before God. Too many are quick to condemn but are they also so quick to forgive? Just why are so many so far from God that they don't even know whether they should be with their spouses anymore? Is it because they have returned to the same filth and mire that hardened the hearts of Israel that even the Lord's anointed should suffer them divorcement and call it holy?

A contractual (man made) law is one thing; sanctified, and holy marriage is another. There are many people calling all sorts of unions today "marriages" but are they marriages indeed? Today, a contract of civil union does not make a marriage in the Lord. Satisfying the fleshly requirements (the tokens of virginity) no longer qualifies as marriage in the LORD. Boasting "lawful" marriage does not impress the Lord in the least. If the Spirit does not bear Witness you do NOT have a godly marriage. PERIOD.

If any would "put away" the Law of Moses then they ought to keep it in the closet and refrain from taking it back out to tell others to get a divorce. You cannot have it both ways. Jesus already fulfilled the law. He was born under the "Law of Moses" and the "Law of Moses" certainly remained until His crucifixion. The Law of Moses remains today for every unrepentant sinner to learn the necessity of salvation and without the spirit of Christ you have nothing.

Now we either believe that God gave us the Law of Moses or we do not. We either believe that Jesus said he did not come to destroy the law and the prophets or we do not. Concerning the flesh I believe the Law of Moses still stands. Concerning the Spirit, I believe that the flesh will not profit by and through the works of the flesh, which is corrupt.

Do we say that God also sanctifies ungodly "marriage�? Marriage is only "honorable in all and the bed undefiled" when it is true and genuine marriage. How is it possible that the works of the flesh can determine what a marriage is except that marriage is carnal? If that marriage is only carnal (and not spiritual) how is it sanctified? Surely there is a requirement for sanctification in the Lord!

Now ladies, if your husband was a whoremonger or even an adulterer before he was saved this is certainly not any sufficient cause for divorcement. No, you are required to love him even as Sarah loved Abraham, calling him lord. Do you love him enough to do that?

Examine your heart

If we would resort to the LAW to determine who should marry and who should divorce then let us do so lawfully. Now the scripture plainly states that if the bride failed to join to her husband as a virgin then the union was not even acceptable unless the bride is a widow. This is the law that God gave to Moses and King David knew this. Did God take back that law now that Jesus is come to us? Yet we would resort to that law of divorcement and adultery that Jesus fulfilled (only to prove that all of us are guilty) only to justify our marriages in the eyes of men... Rather than glorify God. Well...go pull your eyes out and chop off your hands if you really believe that what Christ said on the mount will keep you safe from commiting adultery in your heart. 

Many would conveniently "forget" those aspects of the law in a self-righteous effort to persecute others (while at the same time, excusing themselves) because they think they have a piece of paper that gives them a license to do so. Or worse, they are ensnared in the "holier than thou" doctrine of the flesh. Well, I have news for them: This is fleshly. Too many people are pretending to be married these days when they are not. They're living in sin and the Bible says so.

If our criteria for determining just who should marry and who should not hinges on the law of the flesh then it may as well hinge on the law of the circumcision and the law of chastity with respect to bride. A warning to the proud: Do you glory in your flesh that you have fulfilled the Law of Moses? Do not glory in your flesh but rather glory in your sanctification which comes from above. For even an harlot becomes one flesh with her fornicating partner.

If the Law of the Spirit justifies you in marriage you surely have your answer in the Lord. A marriage contract does not make a marriage and living a lie does not make you married either. Examine yourselves and do not be so eager to judge others or quick to accuse. The law of love reigns supreme but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Please note that God judges them. What therefore God has put together let not man put asunder. Please note that God puts together a true and genuine marriage -- not man.

For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this;

Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. 

 But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another. This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.

 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.

Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.

And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.

This is the FULL BIBLE TRUTH.

God bless you.