What I am about to say here may not be popular. Some pastors may not like it either.

I believe it is fully permissible and ordained of God for women to teach and to instruct other women and children. A woman (regardless of her age) should not teach or preach over a young man or even a male adolescent. That's right. A mother's authority over her son ENDS when that boy grows into adolescence. He should be looking to his father or Elder brother in Christ for further instruction and guidance at this point. He should have MALE teachers only. No female should ever exercise any sort of authority over him after which he has come to the age of understanding because it is confusion - So much for modern times.

Much of what young women desperately lack today is the guidance of the elder sisters among the women of the church. Of course, I realize that in the case of a married woman, her first loyalty is to Jesus Christ and that her loyalty to her husband is in truth, second only to God. Since her loyalty to her husband is second only to God, it includes obeying her husband in the Lord and cooperating with him in all things as his wife and his helpmeet, regardless what any pastor or any other person in the world might tell her. Now this truth is only applicable to godly precepts in godly homes. What is lost is already lost.

But the conflict here is obvious: Because pastor so-and-so might have said something the wife perceives to be a contradiction to what her husband might teach, she is inclined to embrace the pastor’s word over her husband's word and for the word of God. Well, she had better make absolutely certain that she is receiving the Word of God if this should be the case. This devout and godly woman had better know for a fact that what her husband teaches is indubitably in DIRECT opposition to the Word of God before she chooses to rebel against him or many will suffer a great evil under the sun. The church that winks at it will suffer great retribution if she is mistaken.

This may sound cruel and harsh but it is not nearly as cruel as what occurs in any church when a wife fails to stand by her husband in the Lord and lends herself to the craft of the liar. Many families have broken up over such things and it is very tragic to see the enemy at work in the church. I have lived long enough on this earth to witness the devastating results of this sort of spiritual rebellion so common in the church. It is wicked. Pastors are not infallible either but in most cases the words of the pastor are manipulated and twisted by the deceiver to mean a thing that is contrary to God's word.

The Word teaches that women are to keep their silence in the church and that if the wife should have any question that she should seek instruction from her husband. Notice that nowhere does this scripture instruct her to go run to her church pastor or anyone else in church for instruction. The reason for this is simply because in the truly godly home, her HUSBAND is her pastor. Godly wives have a great deal to keep themselves busy with rather than to bother playing the busybody or becoming one herself.

Here is the bitter truth: Men who would desire their pastors to exercise their authority over their wives for them are actually relinquishing their God given role as husbands and pastors over their own homes and families. It is no worse than wife swapping or adultery. I would urge all God fearing men to take charge over their homes as biblical husbandmen if they should be married to a wife in the sight of God and to learn just what this means if they do not already know. To be sure, a pastor of a church has no business in God's Word to exercise his authority in this fashion over another godly man's wife, much less suffer a woman to preach over the congregation. Let the women keep silent in the church. They are there to learn and to listen and if they should have any question...

Ask the pastor of the church?

I think not. The only pastor that the wives should be seeking full leadership from is their HUSBAND. Let the pastor teach the women and children if the husbandman so desires it - do NOT ever let him come between the husband and the wife. Mr. Pastor... if you want to exercise any authority over my wife you better be prepared to go through me first. That means that you must ASK me for my permission to teach her. If you are not willing to do this you are not a pastor, but a butcher of men and a ravenous wolf. You are not my wife's head. I AM. If I should forbid you to talk to her, Mr. Pastor, you must comply with my wishes or you do most certainly disobey God.

Now bear with me in this because I am bringing these issues to the forefront to complete the circle of logic here:

Women... are needed... to teach... and to preach... to women.

Where the pastor has no business going, the pastor's wife (I don't only mean the church pastor here) may well have the Lord's blessing and anointing to go. This addresses the problem of those women who truly desire to get right with God but have wicked and ungodly husbands or women who are lost and desperately seeking after God. The witness of a sister in such cases is essential.

Now the wise and God fearing man has no business messing with another man's wife. Even coming to her door to preach to or teach another man's wife in this case is just like stepping into a pit of vipers. Don't do it. Follow Christ's own example to the Samaritan woman at Jacob's well: Ask for her husband and be very careful of what you say to him. If the husband isn't around, brother, make haste and leave at once because the serpent will surely be at your heels if you do not!

Should women be suffered to preach and to teach? Certainly. Let the woman teach and preach to the women and children who need to learn how to be saved and let her keep silence in the assembly. Let the men do likewise with those men who seek salvation in the name of Jesus. Let the pastors of the assemblies also feed the sheep as they are called to do so and let all things be done in good order.

God Bless you

This old servant cares too

Return ye, to the ancient land marks