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Hi folks,

I am new here. I thought I would give you a bit of back ground so that you know where I am coming from.

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Ten years ago if something happened in my life, good or bad I would pick up the phone and talk to my Mum. I would say “You will never guess what happened today�?blaa, blaa, blaa�? �?During the following conversation at some point she would ask “How do you feel about blaa, blaa�?�?I would explain how I feel and we would talk some more and I would be happy because I was able to express some emotion about the blaa, blaa.

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Eight years ago if something happened in my life, good or bad I would nip round to my neighbour or friend. I would say “You will never guess what happened today�?blaa, blaa, blaa�? �?During the following conversation at some point they would ask “How do you feel about blaa, blaa�?�?I would explain how I feel and we would talk some more and I would be happy because I was able to express some emotion about the blaa, blaa.

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Four years ago when I live abroad, if something happened in my life, good or bad I would talk to the friends I saw at work everyday. I would say “You will never guess what happened today�?blaa, blaa, blaa�? �?During the following conversation at some point they would ask “How do you feel about blaa, blaa�?�?I would explain how I feel and we would talk some more and I would be happy because I was able to express some emotion about the blaa, blaa.

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Now following my return to <st1:country-region w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">Scotland</st1:place></st1:country-region>, if something happens in my life, good or bad I only have my husband to talk to. His reply will be something like “Oh that’s nice for you dear�?!!!! What is that, are men totally devoid of emotion ????

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Enough emotion�?to the physical side of life. Well a few questions ??

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Do I want a physical relationship with another man aside from my husband ? no

Do I think about a physical relationship with another women ? Oh Yes…mmmm

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Am I totally straight ? Probably not<o:p></o:p>

Am I a Lesbian ? Probably not<o:p></o:p>

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How do I feel about that ? Totally cool

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So what do I want ? My promiscuous days are over and I do not wish them to return. Been there done that. ( All be it with men, hey nobody’s perfect !!). First of all I would like to talk to women who have some understanding of where I am coming from. I would also like to explore a physical relationship with a women but it would have to follow an emotional connection.

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If you have got to the end of this saga well done�? If anyone out there can understand me at all I would love to chat. But if not, no worries I have survived the last 36 years and I am sure I will survive a few more yet !!!!

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Thanks again if you have managed to get to the end of this story.

Hi Wifie & thanks for sharing your thoughts..it's not always easy. I've come to where i'm at in a slightly different way.Always took the heterosexual route cos i had no idea what other ways there were to live your life(even tho my brother is gay!I didn't know how a woman would feel!). Got married,had 2 wonderful kids(no regrets here atall). Then when my husband left after we had spent at least 15 not happy years together,i got close to a friend & began to realise what i felt was more than just friendship.Nothing happened here,but it opened my eyes & i'm so grateful that at last I know who I am. I now live with a lady i met here & i know my heart lies with her. Many members here are in your situation & hopefully you'll be able to explore how you feel & what you want & need. I wish you all the best & look forward to seeing you aound the group,Pookie.x

Hi Wifie and welcome to the group. There are a number of ladies here who will understand where you are coming from. I was married for 12 years before I realised I was going down the wrong road.

Hope you have fun with us

Thanks for your reply. I have 2 great kids too. One question, if you don't mind, how do your kids feel about your new life ? Please feel free to tell me to mind my own...

Hi Wifie,personally this is too big a subject to cover here(I'm not good at being concise!),but they are being brought up to be able to voice & discuss(hopefully) what they do feel about things. We try really hard not to make them feel exposed in their life, but talk openly about any issues they may face & how they can deal with them.It's not an easy life for sure,but there are rewards...my partner has a great sense of humour & has really brought my 12 year old son out of himself & she gives them both lots of love. Please feel free to ask anything you want,if any of us can help,we will,Take care,Pookie.

I can relate to a lot of what you have said .

I am married with 3 great kids , i have had relationships with women and find them much more attractive than men , It took a long time to confess all to my hubby but now I have got no secrets and I feel much happier about that . We were together about 12 years before I even approached the subject. He said he had no idea but wasnt shocked. Recently I have felt comfortable telling a few people although not very many.

Its nice to meet you X

hi wifie, i saw your message and felt compelled to write. i will at some point get around to exploring a members page of my own. but i want to start by writing to u. i am bi- i met my late husband in 2000, and he accepted me being bi- but he used me for his own ends.

Last year in oct my husband and i split it wasnt a nice split and was very dramatic. it ended with me and the kids being homeless and he comitted suicide. within 10 days!

It will all be over on thurs. And i will be finally free to find my own way.

I am a really strong minded person. I have explored friendships with ladies and i know that i like both men and women but i know i will never be able to fully trust a man again- i have 2 beautiful kids and im at college. i have a fresh start and am finding my way in life and on the net.

I would like to be able to chat to nice supportive and caring females and ask them to share their positive and negative experiences with me and be able to share my highs and lows with members here.

I hope things are more settled with you. and i would hope we might chat in the future- tc-

I'm terribly sorry about your loss and woes... It is amazing what you don't know you can handle until it is upon you... Love to see your positive about this and can reach for you needs now...

S & B
"The older we get, the less
concerned we are about appearance.."

thanx for finding the time to write back and thanx for your support it means alot.

You certainly are a very brave person and have had a lot to deal with in your life and your attitude is a great credit to you. I really hope that things continue to get better in for you and that you suceed in all that you want to acheive.

It is not that long ago that I posted that message.....but it seems a life time ago !! Although my circumstances have not changed, my attitude to them have !!

I have not doubt that you will find the members here very supportive and I hope to catch up with you very soon.

thanks Jan... there is only one way to go...... and that is forward .....lol

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