On February 13, 2008 late in the evening, Heather came to WSAM and gave the family there the news of Kaden's passing.  Hi all,
As you all know, our sweet baby boy Kaden had come down with a para flu close to two weeks ago. On Thursday, Feb 7th, we did an x-ray which confirmed Kaden's lung had collapsed and that there was a viral pneumonia present. After this news our son got progressivly worse by the hour.
By Saturday, Kaden's lungs were about 80 percent full of fluid and the bi-pap that they had him on 24/7 was doing most of his breathing for him. It seemed that his days were the toughest on his little body but in the evenings, Kaden would wake up for about 2 hours and look at daddy and me, watch a little of his favourite cartoons on Treehouse then fall back asleep..
Tuesday morning the resident called us in to see another x-ray and by this point his lungs were about 95 % full and it was explained to us that if we removed the bi-pap he would surely pass. We continued with all of his treatments to see if he could improve as the doc said we will give him every chance we can..
Kaden was administered Lasicks (sp) as he was not peeing. With this drug his body would force him to pee, the idea being to clear some of this fluid from the chest area. Shortly after midnight, now Wednesday the 13th the RT's came in and told us that Kaden's cap gas came back as 200. She explained that for Kaden's age and weight he
should have only been about 40 points. She said that she has never in her career seen anyone with levels that high that wasn't in a coma.. So that tells me he faught so hard to stay with us.
By 1:00 am Kaden opened his eyes and started at his daddy and myself until about 3:30 am, not once turning his eyes away. We told him that we loved him, that he was a brave boy and that it was ok if he was ready to go to a better place. The doc then let us know it was time to end this struggle as there was no medical way they could
help him, he was dying to the poison from the CO2.
I got comfy in a chair and we removed Kaden's mask so that we could see his face when he died. He just started at me, so helplessly as he was so very weak ... Again we told him we loved him and that it was ok to go now, that he faught so hard and we understood how tired he was. My sweet baby stared into my eyes with such a look it broke my heart into pieces, I will never forget it as long as I live ...Kaden then took about 15 breaths and he was gone...
We were so blessed to have him in our lives and we know in our hearts that our son touched so many people, there were cuddlers on the unit that would come to him night or day, nurses that would argue over who got to take care of him that shift etc, and he would smile, clap his little chubby hands and dance for anyone who approached him. He was such a bright light and I can only hope that he is in a better place now ... Never again having to endure the invasiveness of a suction, a cap gas, colds, flu's and other bugs ...
After Kaden's passing we asked all who were there to leave the room. We changed and bathed our son, brushed his beautiful thick hair and got him dressed in his cutest outfit .. nothing fancy though, he just wore his "funny Kaden clothes" (smiles) We sat with him for 4 hours, listening to classical music and telling him all the things we had in our hearts. We were also given these two piece ceramic hearts from the girls on the unit. We tied each smaller piece to one of Kaden's wrists and kept the other two for ourselves.
Kaden is to be cremeated within the next two to three days and the service will follow within a week or two depending on how we are feeling and what has been arranged so far.
Thank you all again for your support over the past year or so and please if you can, take a minute to say a prayer for Kaden who was so couragous and faught so very hard to stay with us .. And just so you all know, Kaden was on a small amount of morphine and did not feel any pain when he passed away ... Everything we had hoped his death would be, was and that is a great comfort to us during this hard time.
Will write more when I have had some time ..
| What follows is an outpouring of love in the form of messages, notes, and blessings from people who love Darren, Heather, and Kaden.  Gothic, My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hugs, Pattie Goth and Krank, you know I can't pray for you and Kaden, but I can tell you I am feeling a small part of your pain. A part of our WSAM family has left, but the best part of him will not only be with the two of you forever, he has touched many of our lives here too. Thank you for keeping us up to date and sharing Kaden with the rest of us. The best part of this is that you could be there with him at the end, and that he knew you were there. So often we go alone, but not little Kaden. You were there physically, but remember that we were there too. Gotta go now. Kinda hard to type through the tears. Love you all, Bob Oh my. Hugging you both so hard. Hugging Kaden's essence too.   I'm so sorry for you.  Ottermon Kaden Sending love to light the passage home. I am so sorry for this greatest of heartbreaks. From the depths of our hearts this house weeps for your suffering. I can think of nothing so painful as the passing of a child. Hold tight to each other and keep all the best memories alive. Our hearts go out to you both, and we pray that in time the comforter will bring you peace. I think love lives forever, don't you? Orange Im sorry I didnt know you all, or kaden, but from the threads I have read, the strength and inspiration he brought to you, you have brought to many more. So thankyou, and I hope that kadens strength will continue to help you through this most difficult time. Oak-Lea Goth and Krank. My heart goes out to you both! Think you kinda know that Tony and I have been in the same place as you back in 2003... and proir to that when my brother passed from MD in 1981. All I can say is time is a great healer, we are both here for you if you need to talk do email us if you want ! Just know there's another little guy, Thomas, whos been waiting to meet Kaden and knows all about him. Love to you both. Annie xx Messages Page 2
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