Dear Lynn, Sorry to hear about these things. I hope what I am about to say doesn't sound 'preachy', because its not mean't that way......
What I am about to say, I would also do myself if I were in your shoes. When you are surrounded by problems, problems that have no answer, Rest With God. Whatever you conceive that to be, meditating, just sitting in silence and thinking of God, or sitting by the sea and looking out across the ocean and the eternity of the sky. May be even call upon the Presence of Angels and if you can, say "I accept".
The concept of what psychologists say of "float not fight", is a good one.
Love & Light, Carole x