no problem I know how it can be for a young man to break up with His girlfriend even if it is the best for both of them> I will send out healing energes for all concerned, including you and will inght a candle for them.

 

 

 

Thanks all.  My son thanks you also.  He knows it is the best for all concerned.  He said it is a hard thing to do and I told him that I would have been disapointed if it wasn't.  She was his first girlfriend but unfortunatly it had to be.   When he asked me for help last nigth I was expecting it.  I guess I am lucky that my conservative Catholic son knows and believes in other things because he figures that with his Witch Mom and her Pagan friends it won't be so bad.  He has faith that it will be worked out with a little help from us.  Thanks all for the energies and candles.  I will keep you all apraised of what is going on.  James says thank you also.  It is very draining on him.  Actually he believes that she could very well be a physcic vampire as she says that when she feels down or depressed she needs to be around him because his life force makes her feel so much better.  He says it feels like she is sucking the life out of him.  He didn't have a name for it until I mentioned physcic vampire and he said that is what it felt like.  I guess when I go to visit him again I am going tohave to cleanse his obsidian.  He has a large piece of obsidian I gave him to help with the negitivity.  He sleeps with one hand on it when it gets bad.

 

Love and Laughter

~Raveness~

Merry Meet all:

 

Rhiannon: It does break our heart when we can't fix things for them like when they were little.  The world is a cruel place all we can do is protect them as best we can.  My boy is coming home this weekend for a week for spring break.  we call him a couple of times a day to see how he is doing and to just let him know that we are there for him in spirit even if we can't be there is body.  He also knows thought that if needed one or all of us could be there at his school in a heart beat.  The stones help and the energies and candles.  he also knows that Mom has sent her dragons down to watch over him so even though his heart is broke he knows he is looked after.  Thanks all for your help and Rhiannon I will add your boy to my blessings at night.

 

Love and Laughter

~Raveness~

 

 

 

 

 

Merry Meet:

 

I just thought I would give a little update on james and his dilemma.  Well he is staying strong and is not going back to his ex-girlfriend.  He seems to be a happier young man since making this desicion.  He has been under less stress and going out and the people in his class have been inviting himout and asking his opinion and advice on some major papers.  The girl unfortuantely is not really moving on.  She is still calling him and tryiong to hold him to doing things with her that he has agreed to months ago while they were still together.  James being a honorable sort feels bad that he can't follow through with them.  When he feels weak and almost gives in he calls me and I tel him that he isn't a liar or anything of the sort.  They are not togehter anymore so he is not obligated to them.  She sends him emails and tries calling him.  I have told him to turn his phone off and his answering machine on and down so he won't miss important calls but he doesn't have to talk to her.  he has a cell phone so the family calls him on it.  he has asked her to please not call or contact him anymoer as it is to hard on him when she does.  I have no idea why this girl(who I really wish no harm to) has decided to now get a hold of me.  He was on my instant messanger last night and started to complain to me about him and say all kinds of mean and untrue things about him ot me, his mother.  Needless to say I was very upset about the whole thing but amazingly enough I kept my cool.  Now James is a shy boy and many people can misunderstand it and it seems that he is aloof and aragant.  this is not true.  And you would think that after a year together she would have known this but nope.  She sits there and tells me how he is rude to her parents and her friends and even her at times.  Yes he dislikes her parents.  They do not treat her well and he sees this andit upsets him.  They sent her to Univercity last year with no shoes.  I m ean for two weeks until her student aid came in the girl was barefoot.  This was in August so she was lucky there was no snow onthe ground but she went to class and marching band barefoot.  And when she has a summer job her paernts take all of her money for the house payments and bills.  They both work but they take her money and she gives it to them because they tell her that they will lose everything if she doesn't.  They have 20 acres of property with trees on it that could be thinned out and they could get some extra cash for that but they will not do it.  They have actually put it in her name and make her take all of the revenue(renters) and this has messed up her financial aid.  My son is conservative(don't know how that happened*S*) and her family knows it and they delight in being crude to him.  I guess her friends father has sexually and physically abused his children, including her friend and she cannot understand why my son thinks he should be drawn, quartered and slowly fried in his own juices.  Go figure.  And here she is telling me all of this and I am in amazement that she thinks that I should side with her and take my son to task.  Where did she think he got some ofhis ideas from and his moral comapss?  Anyway I as nicely as I could tried to make her understand that perhaps I was not the one to talk ot about this and that she should then thank her lucky stars that they are not together anymore.  Know what she got out of the whole deal.  She now thinks that I hate her.  I told her she was being silly and that I didn't say that.  She told me she wasn't being silly and that she was going to crawl into a hole and just"die" because everyone hated her.  I don't thikn she will be contacting me any time soon and I am not super concerned that she will harm herslef in any way.  My intutition tell sme no and that it is just a bit of drama to get James to run back to her out of guilt.  I will stop my rant now.  I do feel better and the boy thanks all of you for your support and energies.

 

Love and laughter

~Raveness~