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| | From:  marymoscow (Original Message) | Sent: 12/4/2005 12:10 AM |
I don't know exactly how to begin, so if this is a little confusing or long winded, I'm apologizing up front...sorry... I was in an abusive relationship with this guy for about a year and a half, and I am still dealing with the repercussions from it. I can't seem to let go of him, or the power that I apparently allow/allowed him to have over me. I cry constantly, have dreams about him, and can't seem to get over him. I miss him terribly, and when he comes back around to "make things work," I always take him back, even though the same cycle repeats itself and I end up getting hurt over and over and over again. This last time he came back was right before Thanksgiving, and he promised to make this a "new beginning for us" and to make an effort to "make things right." I wanted to believe him and so I agreed to give things another chance...and then last week he disappeared without a word at all, something he has never done before. I tried calling and texting him, but he never got back to me. Again, something he has never done before. Usually there is some kind of verbal closure when things come to an end between us. I can't say I am not surprised things turned out like this, but I am extremely hurt. My gut says there is not another woman (and cheating was never an issue in our relationship anyway), but I had a bunch of readings done and some said he was with another woman, and some said he wasn't. Now my dreams are all messed up, 50% are about him with another woman, 50% are just him off doing whatever on his own. I am incredibly confused and I can't stop crying. My point is I need to get over this guy. I can't feel like this anymore, I need to not care about him or what he is doing anymore because it is killing me. I don't know why he has this power over me or why I let him, but I can't take it anymore and I need help. My friend (Ed, I can't remember your screen name in this group, I'm sorry) told me I should ask you guys for help in casting a spell to help myself get over him. Truth be told though, I am not ready to banish him from my life. I know he will be back around, I just want to be able to not care when he does come back around- to not let anything he says affect me one way or another. I would not mind being civil with him, but I want the power he has over me to be gone. If there is anything I can do or anyone has any suggestions at all, please let me know. Thank you so so much. |
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There you go I fixed the the duplicates lol! As far as your problem goes it might help to just sit down with pen and paper and just list the pro's and con's of being with this guy maybe if you see it on paper it will have some kind of bigger impact on you, the thing is you have to come to terms with not having him in your life and stick to it, why you love this guy I can't tell you, I do know that for some reason we can be attracted to the very worst person for ourselves and just keep repeating this over and over, with some it's different guys same personalities, or the same bad relationship that you know in your heart will never change, it's up to you to break the cycle, if you were stubborn it would really help lol But steadfast and stubborn you have to be with yourself or this guy will just keep repeating this and you'll keep taking him back, I don't know if this helps or not but you are in my parayers and blessings Sky |
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Hey Mary...Its Ed...Screen name is Hawk Feathers Wind or Hawk for short....Anyways...You are in a very confused place right now...And I have been there also...With a past relationship...You are my friend Mary...So here is what I have to say...First...My suggestion is a healing candle...For YOU and YOU alone!....You have worked with candles...And are pretty good at it...Now second....Sky does have a good idea...Write down the pros and cons and by writing them down...You may actually "see" the relationship for what its worth...Now I have an insight Mary...You must regain the your power...You allow him yes to manipulate the situation...You must search within your soul...Find a quiet space and just listen...Above the turmoil and distractions...Find your home...Where your spirit dwells...It will take time to find it...Dont get frustated...Once you found that place you will know it...A serenity will come over you...And you will see how much power you actually posses...And you will not want to let it go....Or give it to someone else...It will be yours to keep....You must realize that this is not about him...Its about you...Stand in front of the mirror Mary...And take a look...You are beautiful...You are caring....You posses so many quality attributes....Dont sell yourself short!....Regain your self esteem and worth!....I can feel your restlessness within your mind through your words...Its up to you Mary...It always has been... Btw...Dont get any more readings for awhile....A long while!...If you do get a reading make sure it about once a month or even every couple...The Tarot will be more effective that way! |
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I have to agree with everything Sky and Hawk have said. You DO have the power within you to let go of this guy. You just have to reach inside to find it, trust me it is there. You need to get this guy out of your life or else he will eventually suck all the positive energy and power right out of you. Even if you start saying no to the small things it is amazing how it becomes easier and easier to say no as the bigger things crop up. I had a guy that I was living with for almost two years and then one day he just said that he had to go out of town to do some work and would be back in a month. That was back in January, haven't heard from him since. I learned the long way around that he is living with someone else so basically when he was packing a few things for 'his trip' he was packing up to leave but didn't have the guts to tell me. I went throught the crying stage and then the angry stage, all a part of healing. I really got my power back over him when I took everything of his that he had left behind and threw it all in the garbage. Yes, I still think of him and have feelings for him but when those feelings crop up I just think of what he did to me and realize that I would not let him back even if he begged. I am too good a person to be treated like that and I will not ever again let anyone treat me like that. I know it will be hard but sometimes you have to get 'hard and tough' for your own good. My prayers, thoughts and love are with you through this and always. Raven |
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Merry Meet Mary: There is good advice in what has been said here to you already. But I read that you say you are not ready to banish him from your life just yet. It is my experience that the magick will not work until you are ready to have him out of your life. I know you are confused and wish to regain your power back over your life and the others have given you good advice as to what to do. As Hawk says no more reading for a long while. *S* But you must first face that fact that he probably is not any good for you and you have to let him go. Until you are ready to do this then the magick will not work because you will always be countering it in your heart. Do as Hawk says with the candles. Candle magick is a great tool. Also you can write down the things that you think are holding you back from yourself and then burn them in the candles releasing them to the cosmos to deal with. I hope we have helped a bit and please let us know how it is going and maybe we can come up with something else to help. Love and laughter |
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