Listening to others can be at times a difficult exercise because often the conversation is about someone else and often it is spoken of in a derogatory manner. It seems to be the habit of humanity to speak negative of people.
Very rarely do people speak in positive terms. In order to grow spiritually, one needs to listen to others, but not to take literally what is said. It is important, most of all to realize what is being told to you is THEIR truth.
It is as they see it, and that vision may be clouded by emotions, often the emotions can be carried in anger, fear or other expressions of emotion for many years, even incarnations.
In order to grow spiritually, one needs to step aside from the gossip and chatter, and listen but not absorb what is said. This can be a difficult task to begin with because the Self loves gossip and chatter, it never stops itself these activities, and the more it can get the better.
So many lives are ruined by listening to the woes, troubles, problems and innuendoes of others.
Families have been torn apart, marriages broken, and often the information given is not true, or embellished beyond the actual truth.
When next time you speak to another, try to say positive things about the person you are speaking about. Ask yourself, "Am I making more of this than is true?" Listen to your conversations and watch what you say to others, and finally, do not listen to gossip, chatter and negative words.
If the person cannot say anything good about the person who they are communicating about, it is THEIR problem, somehow though, it often becomes your problem, and then interferes with or upsets the lives of others.