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From: XtraMSN Nicknamefemfree  (Original Message)Sent: 24/09/2008 5:31 p.m.
We all know Patricia Evans for her excellent books on verbal/emotional abuse.
 
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PATRICIA EVANS' POLITICAL PERSPECTIVE

This is our 13th Newsletter. Please feel free to forward it to your friends. If, for any reason, you do not wish to receive it, please click the "safe unscribe" at the bottom of the page and you will instantly, automatically, be removed. Please enjoy reading this newsletter.

This 'letter' to my readers may be my only political statement ever. Yet, I feel compelled to speak out now when there is so much at stake. I've included some informative locations links and some quotes as others have said so much and so much better than I could say it. By the way, I recommend two shows that present the real facts. They are both on MSNBC: The Rachael Maddow Show 6 pm pst and 9 pm est and The Keith Olberman Show 5 pm pst and 8 pm est .

Our country can either sink into economic and social collapse or can become spiritually strong and economically healthy. Please take a few minutes to hear my thoughts and, of course, decide your own course based on what your heart and soul tell you.

When Bush was elected, I cried. I surprised myself. I hadn't ever thought I would cry for my country. But I did because I sensed so much harm to come. I would certainly grieve for my country if McCain/Palin were elected.

People who try to control people may, like dictators, rid themselves of those who tell the truth. Throughout history, truth tellers, often referred to as the intelligencia, have been imprisoned or assassinated en masse by dictators-silenced because they speak the truth. In a democracy this can't happen so controllers denigrate, defame, and mischaracterize truth tellers. There has been a long history of controllers trying to get rid of truth tellers because they want to maintain control. Now with the internet we can find out so much more than we could even 25 years ago.

As I am sure you know, people can smear someone by means of verbal abuse: both by lies and implications. The following list of comments, show how a political campaign can portray the candidates any way they want regardless of the facts. I do not know the author of this portrayal, but thanks to the Internet, I can share it with you.

~If you grow up in Hawaii, raised by your grandparents, you're 'exotic, different.'

~Grow up in Alaska eating mooseburgers, a quintessential American story.

~If your name is Barack you're a radical, unpatriotic Muslim.

~Name your kids Willow, Trig and Track, you're a maverick.

~Graduate from Harvard law School and you are unstable.

~Attend 5 different small colleges before graduating, you're well grounded.

~If you spend 3 years as a brilliant community organizer, become the first black President of the Harvard Law Review, create a voter registration drive that registers 150,000 new voters, spend 12 years as a Constitutional Law professor, spend 8 years as a State Senator representing a district with over 750,000 people, become chairman of the state Senate's Health and Human Services committee, spend 4 years in the United States Senate representing a state of 13 million people while sponsoring 131 bills and serving on the Foreign Affairs, Environment and Public Works and Veteran's Affairs committees, you don't have any real leadership experience.

~If your total resume is: local weather girl, 4 years on the city council and 6 years as the mayor of a town with less than 7,000 people, 20 months as the governor of a state with only 650,000 people, then you're qualified to become the country's second highest ranking executive and next in line behind a man in his eighth decade.

~If you have been married to the same woman for 19 years while raising 2 beautiful daughters, all within Protestant churches, you're not a real Christian.

~If you cheated on your first wife with a rich heiress, and then left your disfigured wife and married the heiress the next month, you're a true Christian.

~If you teach responsible, age appropriate sex education, including the proper use of birth control, you are eroding the fiber of society.

~If, while governor, you staunchly advocate abstinence only, with no other option in sex education in your state's school system while your unwed teen daughter ends up pregnant, you're very responsible.

~If your wife is a Harvard graduate lawyer who gave up a position in a prestigious law firm to work for the betterment of her inner city community, then gave that up to raise a family, your family's values don't represent America's.

~If you're husband is nicknamed 'First Dude', with at least one DWI conviction and no college education, who didn't register to vote until age 25 and once was a member of a group that advocated the secession of Alaska from the USA, your family is extremely normal.

This was a good example of how abusers characterize their target.

MY VIEW:
BARRACK OBAMA
I see Obama as a calm, brilliant, hard-working man with a highly developed consciousness who extends himself always to bring hope and opportunity to all. As he has said, he will protect us by using diplomacy, increasing our armed services and deploying them only when necessary. I am confident that he will never jeopardize our safety by acting out of irrational anger or out of some need to prove himself.

JOSEPH BIDEN
United States Senator Joseph Biden is the Democratic vice presidential candidate. Longtime champion of measures to prevent violence against women, Senator Biden is an author of the bi-partisan Violence Against Women Act and a co-sponsor of the bi-partisan International Violence Against Women Act. I admire him so much. Biden has worked for many years on behalf of the hard working people of our country. It is no wonder that Barrack Obama, himself a very hard workingman, chose Biden to run with him.

I believe with all my heart and soul that Obama & Biden offer the United States its best chance of social and economic recovery.

ABOUT JOHN MCCAIN
John McCain, the republican presidential candidate concerns me because he seems not quite sharp enough; he didn't know the name of the President of Spain when he was asked about his willingness to discuss issues with him. He has slipped up many times in conversations.

He doesn't seem fit enough; He has had many surgeries and is on many medications. He doesn't seem intelligent enough; he graduated 5th from the bottom of his class. Obama graduated at the top of his class at Harvard Law School.

Lastly John McCane doesn't seem conscious and calm enough.

Please check this out: http://www.brasschecktv.com
Then click on: John McCain - Lost in Space President Palin

Of JOHN MCCAIN, SALON.COM reports:
"There are behaviors associated with the candidate that would be consistent with a diagnosis of PTSD. Author Robert Timberg mentions McCain's intense explosions of anger --- a hallmark sign of lingering mental trauma from war -- in his book "John McCain: An American Odyssey." Timberg describes the episodes as "an eruption of temper out of all proportion to the provocation." Timberg, who McCain has said "knows more about me than I do," wrote that McCain's sudden fury is a result of Vietnam coming "back to haunt him." McCain has himself described having an adverse reaction to the sound of jangling keys, which reminds him of his Vietnam jailers. McCain also told doctors that during solitary confinement he had strayed pretty "far out" and had referred to himself as "mentally deteriorating."

MY THOUGHTS ON SARAH PALIN
McCain's running mate, Sarah Palin is not only ignorant of lies that prompted our bombing Iraq, she still believes them. She gave a speech that, according to the Washington Post, "linked the war in Iraq with the Sept. 11 terrorist attacks." Even President Bush no longer repeats this discredited lie.

Beyond her ignorance, I fear that her perfected persona is all there is to her. In other words, her unconsciousness is scary.

Explaining why Palin's ranking has gone down among women, political pundits have wondered lately if women think Palin is too busy with children to be vice president. I propose that there is an even more persuasive reason. It is that many women have had a sinking feeling in the pit of the stomach when they first saw her give a speech. (The universal sign of toxicity.) I did, and felt alarmed/frightened. She seemed so unreal to me. Some women had nightmares about her after their first encounter.


FOLLOWING ARE ADDITIONAL PERSPECTIVES

DEEPAK CHOPRAH has this to say on his MySpace blog.

"OBAMA AND THE PALIN EFFECT"
"Sometimes politics has the uncanny effect of mirroring the national psyche even when nobody intended to do that. This is perfectly illustrated by the rousing effect that Gov. Sarah Palin had on the Republican convention in Minneapolis this week. On the surface, she outdoes former Vice President Dan Quayle as an unlikely choice, given her negligent parochial expertise in the complex affairs of governing.

"Her state of Alaska has less than 700,000 residents, which reduces the job of governor to the scale of running one-tenth of New York City. By comparison, Rudy Giuliani is a towering international figure. Palin's pluck has been admired, and her forthrightness, but her real appeal goes deeper.

"She is the reverse of Barrack Obama, in essence his shadow, deriding his idealism and exhorting people to obey their worst impulses. I recognize that psychological analysis of politics is usually not welcome by the public, but I believe such a perspective can be helpful here to understand Palin's message. In her acceptance speech Gov. Palin sent a rousing call to those who want to celebrate their resistance to change and a higher vision.

"Look at what she stands for:

--Small town values -- a denial of America's global role, a return to petty, small-minded parochialism.

--Ignorance of world affairs -- a repudiation of the need to repair America's image abroad.

--Family values -- a code for walling out anybody who makes a claim for social justice. Such strangers, being outside the family, don't need to be heeded.

--Rigid stands on guns and abortion -- a scornful repudiation that these issues can be negotiated with those who disagree.

--Patriotism -- the usual fallback in a failed war.

--"Reform" -- an italicized term, since in addition to cleaning out corruption and excessive spending, one also throws out anyone who doesn't fit your ideology.

"Palin reinforces the overall message of the reactionary right, which has been in play since 1980, that social justice is liberal-radical, that minorities and immigrants, being different from "us" pure American types, can be ignored, that progressivism takes too much effort and globalism is a foreign threat. The radical right marches under the banners of "I'm all right, Jack," and "Why change? Everything's OK as it is." The irony, of course, is that Gov. Palin is a woman and a reactionary at the same time. She can add mom to apple pie on her resume, while blithely reversing forty years of feminist progress. The irony is superficial; there are millions of women who stand on the side of conservatism, however obviously they are voting against their own good. The Republicans have won multiple national elections by raising shadow issues based on fear, rejection, hostility to change, and narrow-mindedness.

"Obama's call for higher ideals in politics can't be seen in a vacuum. So what comes next is a contest between the two forces of progress and inertia. Will the shadow win again, or has its furtive appeal become exhausted? No one can predict. The best thing about Gov. Palin is that she brought this conflict to light, which makes the upcoming debate honest. It would be a shame to elect another Reagan, whose smiling persona was a stalking horse for the reactionary forces that have brought us to the demoralized state we are in. We deserve to see what we are getting, without disguise."

EVE ENSLER, the American playwright, performer and activist wrote the following about SARAH PALIN:

"I am having Sarah Palin nightmares. I have spent my life trying to build community, help empower women and stop violence against them. It is hard to write about Sarah Palin. This is why the Sarah Palin choice was all the more insidious and cynical. The people who made this choice count on the goodness and solidarity of Feminists.

"But everything Sarah Palin believes in and practices is antithetical to Feminism which for me is part of one story -- connected to saving the earth, ending racism, empowering women, giving young girls options, opening our minds, deepening tolerance, and ending violence and war.

"I believe that the McCain/Palin ticket is one of the most dangerous choices of my lifetime, and should this country chose those candidates the fall-out may be so great, the destruction so vast in so many areas that America may never recover. But what is equally disturbing is the impact that duo wouldhave on the rest of the world. Unfortunately, this is not a joke. In my lifetime I have seen the clownish, the inept, the bizarre be elected to the presidency with regularity.

"Sarah Palin does not believe in evolution. I take this as a metaphor. In her world and the world of Fundamentalists nothing changes or gets better or evolves. She does not believe in global warming. The melting of the arctic, the storms that are destroying our cities, the pollution and rise of cancers, are all part of God's plan. She is fighting to take the polar bears off the endangered species list. The earth, in Palin's view, is here to be taken and plundered. The wolves and the bears are here to be shot and plundered. The oil is here to be taken and plundered. Iraq is here to be taken and plundered. As she said herself of the Iraqi war, 'It was a task from God.'

"Sarah Palin does not believe in abortion. She does not believe women who are raped and incested and ripped open against their will should have a right to determine whether they have their rapist's baby or not. She obviously does not believe in sex education or birth control. I imagine her daughter was practicing abstinence and we know how many babies that makes.

"Sarah Palin does not much believe in thinking. From what I gather she has tried to ban books from the library, has a tendency to dispense with people who think independently. She cannot tolerate an environment of ambiguity and difference. This is a woman who could and might very well be the next president of the United States. She would govern one of the most diverse populations on the earth.

"Sarah believes in guns. She has her own custom Austrian hunting rifle. She has been known to kill 40 caribou at a clip. She has shot hundreds of wolves from the air.

"Sarah believes in God. That is of course her right, her private right. But when God and Guns come together in the public sector, when war is declared in God's name, when the rights of women are denied in his name, that is the end of separation of church and state and the undoing of everything America has ever tried to be.

"I write to my sisters. I write because I believe we hold this election in our hands. This vote is a vote that will determine the future not just of the U.S., but of the planet. It will determine whether we create policies to save the earth or make it forever uninhabitable for humans. It will determine whether we move towards dialogue and diplomacy in the world or whether we escalate violence through invasion, undermining and attack. It will determine whether we go for oil, strip mining, coal burning or invest our money in alternatives that will free us from dependency and destruction. It will determine if money gets spent on education and healthcare or whether we build more and more methods of killing. It will determine whether America is a free open tolerant society or a closed place of fear, fundamentalism and aggression.

"If the Polar Bears don't move you to go and do everything in your power to get Obama elected then consider the chant that filled the hall after Palin spoke at the RNC, "Drill Drill Drill." I think of teeth when I think of drills. I think of rape. I think of destruction. I think of domination. I think of military exercises that force mindless repetition, emptying the brain of analysis, doubt, ambiguity or dissent. I think of pain.

"Do we want a future of drilling? More holes in the ozone, in the floor of the sea, more holes in our thinking, in the trust between nations and peoples, more holes in the fabric of this precious thing we call life." "-Eve Ensler September 5, 2008"


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Please NOTE: Starting this year, all important information will be sent via e-mail newsletters.

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With warm regards,


Patricia Evans
EICI, Inc.



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