The managers have all been targets of the predators. We know first-hand from our own hard-learned painful experiences and we understand the cruel deception and emotional pain you're experiencing. We are not professionals. If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact us. If you have a private request for assistance or information we're here to help you in any way we can.

'Femfree' is short for 'financial and emotional freedom'. I have participated in and managed forums for over 6 years now. I became involved with a narcissist/psychopath husband and his son. My marriage only lasted 6 months and I was devalued and discarded (D&D'd). I've come to learn that he did this because he cannot face the shame or exposure of his behaviour. It took me many months to learn this. He anticipated the coming boundaries and exposure of his behaviour long before I did, and instantaneously ended the relationship while I was still in the stage of thinking things could be worked out. He went to great lengths to blame me to hide his own shocking behaviour. I am one of the lucky ones whose N left me, but at the time it was a devastating experience. It took me a long time to figure this out. With 20/20 hindsight I now realize it was doomed from the get go. I was told that he sensed my strengths and limitations and that is what they cannot accept. 

It was my 2nd marriage and the realization that I was married to one of these predators was shocking and the sudden explosive "Mr. Hyde" that confronted me had been hidden behind his charismtic businessman's false mask. I tried to make contact and 'fix' him but that was a naive foolish mistake. The traits of his mental disorder(s) were too deeply ingrained to be fixed. It was a sad waste of time on my part.

After his 'true nature' erupted, I was reeling with this emotional catastrophe. Like all of us here, our recovery is not quick nor easy. It is a gradual day-by-day process. Please go easy on yourself as you recover. Recovery from traumatic and abusive relationships ultimately brings about a wonderful knowledge of ourselves (and them) we never had before. As we learn about mental problems, we learn a lot about ourselves along the way.

I was once told to learn as much as I can as fast as I can and protect myself financially and emotionally. It really was wonderful advice, and I like to pass it along. I wish to welcome you and invite you to participate at our forums. Take Care -- especially of you!!
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