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"Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has."
Margaret Mead, American Anthropologist
We invite you to join us. When you join you will be able to select your own unique 'nickname' and for your additional safety and security you may select an option to NOT disclose your email (Recommended), and please select the option to read the messages at the site (not by email) for your safety and ours. We recommend for your convenience that you make a copy of any longer messages in the event of a technical upload glitch.
If you have been in a chosen or unchosen relationship with a narcissist or psychopath, our sites will provide a learning and support environment of compassionate understanding, where we help each other learn, adjust, heal and ultimately reclaim our lives and peace of mind. Please join us on the message board whenever you feel comfortable.
Our sites: Yahoo Group
NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER PSYCHOPATH For Parents
Coping with the Psychopath Narcissist Child
For Adult Children of NPs
Adult Children of Narcissists/Psychopaths Our MSN Private Forum - Only Members can view messages here and membership is for Abuse Survivors only
WHAT WILL THIS SITE DO FOR ME?
Give you an understanding of what Narcissists/Psychopaths are and how they affect our lives, and help you know you are NOT ALONE, help you laugh when you are feeling down, help you cry when something hits home. Give you a place to share your story, feedback, validation, coping and recovery resources. People have said that 2 weeks on a support forum has helped them more than months of therapy. If you have never been on a discussion forum before, we think you'll like it. We can get support from members while we're wearing our old bathrobe and our members find sharing stories becomes a lifeline as we become important friends for each other.
From our members... "This forum was an integral part of giving me the strength to get the hell away from my XN, I am forever indebted to this community without a doubt." "This is a truly wonderful place for me. I was referred here by a counsellor who (unlike me) knew what was happening in my life." "I have been in counseling off and on since my divorce ten years ago and I've learned more in three months on this board than I did in that entire time." "As a physician I am totally abhored by what my husband did. My goal now is to educate - physicians, counselors, attorneys and women. You are doing a great job. Please continue the forum."
"What a treasure trove of information." "The articles on this site are so insightful, inspirational and helpful, but it's also each of the personal stories that have brought home to me, more than anything, how many other people are out there going through the same sort of thing. "I found your site profound in it's significance. "I've found that my time spent here has been of greater value to me than anything I've participated in, in my life."
"This site has given me a stronger feeling of validation and sanity amidst the craziness, a place where I can support others going through the same thing, a place I can let down my hair and not be embarassed at what I've been through." "I would like to say thank you for the existence of this forum and for what it has done to change the course of my life." "This forum is a gift. The gift of knowledge, choice and freedom. Appreciate it...use it."
"This site has very warm, loving, supportive, caring people... I enjoy this board immensely... and I have learned so much, and continue to learn more from others and their experiences. I'm very thankful and grateful for finding you all here. It's nice to know my experiences are helping others too!!!"
"This board has healed my confusion, created loving and knowledgeable friends, allowed me to vent, and comforted my fears. You will love it here!"
"'My therapist told me about this site. Your website is a lifesaver. Thank you, thank you, thank you. How did anyone ever recover from an N/P experience before this site?"
"My therapist said I was the "quickest study she ever had. I told her not to give me the credit; it came from this site and all the valuable information I never would have known or how or where to find on my own."
"There are no words to describe how grateful I am and no value can be placed on what I've gained by coming here."
The best rule is The Golden Rule.
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Note: Member's quotes are used anonymously at our Abuse Survivor Quotes site: http://survivorquotes.bravehost.com/. Your identity will never be revealed. If you wish to submit a quote that you have found helpful, (Thank You!) If you have questions or if you wish to be excluded please contact us. MESSAGE BOARD PROTOCOL - MSN has a mandatory Code of Conduct for all groups and we have additional expectations. Our policy is Zero Tolerance of abusive behaviour. Offenders will be reported to MSN security. Messages containing personal data may be removed or edited for member protection. Messages may not contain the given names of abusers as it is slander/libel and can result in membership termination. We do not allow spamming/linking to commercial or inapproriate websites. Objectionable messages, use of unacceptable foul language, violations of policies and/or disrespect of the forum's intent, can result in immediate membership termination without notification. Your managers make careful deliberations in determining membership cancellations based on the best interest of the forums. Our forums are 'family friendly' and young people come here for research, sharing messages and learning. We therefore ask that you avoid detailed sexual discussion topics. Managers will remove any messages which are deemed inappropriate. You'll be glad to know your managers have uploaded the latest in common sense and gut instinct and we have the right to decide which messages are appropriate and, we will revoke membership for failure to comply with our policy. Our message boards are dedicated to our learning, support, resources, and life situations. Questions regarding forum problems, our policy or decisions are to be directed to [email protected] Thank you for your co-operation. Links to non-recommended forums will be removed. If you wish to have a forum added to our recommended list, please contact the manager. We do not allow negative comments about other message boards. At some point, we all find some messages or people may strike an emotion from anger to happiness. This teaches us about how we feel about something in our own life. These are learning opportunities. You may wish to examine why a particular message makes you feel unsettled. We often learn something new about ourselves. If you have a problem with someone's post, for whatever reason, please DO NOT RESPOND TO IT. Email [email protected] we may miss something and very much appreciate your help. Mention which forum, the message thread title, member's name, text, and why you feel it is inappropriate and a link to it if possible so we can quickly resolve your concerns. There is therapeutic value in not being reactive. We're bound to not like or disagree with some messages, so why on earth get upset when you're already dealing with an N/P in your life, and when it's the manager's job to take care of it. Most importantly, use self control in not responding to bait with anger. This will help you cope with the N/P in your life. If you can't deal with a complete stranger's words on a screen, you're going to have a hard time keeping your 'sense of self' strong around your N/P. Don't let your fingers fly to the keyboard to defend yourself. Besides, when the managers see any angry responses, the wrong person could be kicked off. We hate it when that happens. Don't put us in that position. CONFIDENTIALITY is essential for you and your N/P. For your safety, remain anonymous, DO NOT use your real name, address, or personal information. Mentally ill/disordered people often form relationships with other people with mental illnesses/dysfunctional people so please be aware of the high potential for similar situations on our message boards. Be cautious in any personal contact with members who may have their own mental health problems and who wish to involve you in their situations. Avoid such people at all times. People may give you coping suggestions, but you are under no obligation to take their suggestions. Each of us is ultimately responsible for our actions, inactions and decisions. We think our policies are fair and, if you think so too, we invite you to join us.
Warning and Disclaimer The contents of this website are not a substitute for legal and medical professional help and counseling. Diagnosis and treatment of mental problems can only be done by professionals qualified to do so. We are not professionals. We are committed to providing learning, resource and support forums for anyone facing these devastating circumstances. There may be a tendency to trivialize mental disorders and we wish to emphasize very real potential for violence. Mental health sites can attract high percentages of dysfunctional people. Members with ongoing dysfunctional interaction, enmeshment, pathological co-dependence with abusers need professional therapy and in their best interest may be subject to membership cancellation.
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