Our sites also provide information for N/Ps and from time to time they may become members. Your tolerance is appreciated.
Every once in a while, a N or P might find our forums and decide to join and post messages. We hope you will view this as a learning opportunity.
Should this happen, we have developed this page to instruct both the N's and P's and the survivors of the N and P relationship on what to do in this event.
For The Survivor:
Remember, first and foremost, this site is geared towards a support group for you, the survivors of the NPD and/or ASPD relationship. Therefore, the managers are going to make sure that you are protected. We have a zero tolerance of abusive behaviour on our message boards. Hostile messages which contain baiting, angry, insulting, critical, demeaning, or other inappropriate content are considered flamesl Should an N or P flame you, they will be immediately removed. Managers reserve the right to make the decisions about offensive messages.
DO NOT respond to the attack. If you respond attacking back, you yourself could be subjected to having your membership revoked. We learn something about ourselves when we figure out what is triggering us to respond. We do not tolerate any abuse of any kind regardless if you were attacked first. Sadly, that means 2 (or more) people get removed from the forum. Your managers are here to help you and we will take care of the situation.
Remember, MSN does not discriminate towards any members. If the N or P is respectful, we do not have the right or power to remove them from the forum. Therefore, you have two choices:
Ignore them if you do not wish to deal with them. Ignore their threads and do not respond in any way to them. Please psychologically detach and regard this as a learning opportunity.
You have the option to leave the forum and find another forum. We would hope that you would not choose this option, but it is an alternative to getting upset and posting something that might get you reprimanded. And above all, keep in mind that the NP has a mental disorder they didn't ask for.
For The Narcissist Or Psychopath:
Remember first and foremost that this site is for people who have suffered sometimes life changing and devastating abuse by the hand of someone who has your disorder. Therefore, there are going to be raw feelings here. You might be ignored, or you may be confronted with questions or statements that you might not be comfortable with. As long as the statements or questions are made respectfully we will not delete them.
The managers of this forum will not tolerate any kind of abuse or attacks on any of the members of this forum. Attacks or abuse will be subject to immediate banning without any notification.
If a member flames you, you should not respond or confront this person. If the managers do not respond by deleting the post, you may contact FemFree and we will take care of it.
If you are seeing things that upset you or you do not like, you have the same two options as the survivors:
Ignore the posts
Leaving the forum to find another one more suited to your needs.
If there are any questions please contact FemFree at [email protected]
We would also like to take this opportunity to warn you from giving out personal information on our message boards. This includes: Name, Address, Phone Number, or Email Addresses. Our site is accessible to the public. If you do not want it told or seen, do not tell it. Exercise caution at all times, especially if you are in physical danger.
If you have any questions as to what is appropriate or inappropriate, you may email the managers and ask. We'll be more than happy to help.
