"You have ruined my friendship with all of our friends"

"He uses ANY excuse to call me."

"Our child - anything relating or concerning her."

"He would contact me several times a week pphone, email to say, " I have apologized so many times to you, and you are a hard hearted b**** and won't even listen.  I am through apologizing and never want to see you again! Do not contact me again."

"He was always asking some medical question he thought I could help him with."
A death in the family
A car crash/death of someone I never knew
I left something at your house and need it now
"I got that job."

"It was some document or something he couldn't remember."

"I only meant to point out in my post what my ex had said to pull me back into the relationship, and how for me it worked  for so long. it was a truely disfunctional relationship but i did not see it at the time......thats why as truely hard as it was.......the no contact rule is the only thing that got me out of it.

"This reconciliation between the N and myself was short-lived. His true colours emerged, once again. But being able to document my every-day experience with him helped me to make the final decision to move on.

"I'm learning to take things one day at a time. If I N-dip, I just get back up, dust myself off and try again."

"I wanted to talk to ex-N so much today. Yet the desire to N-dip made me very anxious. It's as though my need for him, for someone so very bad for me, is finally becoming ego-dystonic. The urge to be with him creates strong inner dissonance because I know if I contact him it's emotional suicide. Still, I am in so much pain. I can hardly work. My job seems overwhelming."

"People on the site call it 'N-Dipping'. It is like fighting an addiction. So, if you are tempted to slide, it's entirely understandable. At one time you felt great love and passion for this man, and there is some part of you that WISHES he wasn't what you know him to be, WISHES it wasn't all true, that it didn't happen the way it did, and that you could GET BACK that guy you thought he was. I was always tempted to think maybe this is some sort of aberration, something going on in his life, stress, mental illness, and that the OTHER GUY, the one I fell in love with was the REAL HIM. I hated having to finally face the fact that I fell in love with a Jekyll and Hyde facade. It absolutely sucks."

"N-dipping is not sinful it just doesn't go anywhere�?except as NS. It is also very painful to let go of all the hopes and dreams."

"They just don't change and the games become more cruel. The devaluation becomes worse and more painful every time we go back. That's why I think some people think N-dipping is healing in a way, because you see the patterns repeating themselves. It won't be too long before you are able to detach from him emotionally and one day you will look at his antics and thank God you are no longer one of his victims."

"It was then I realized I was still hanging on�?like I was addicted to him. I want to be free and away from it all. I want my mind to be free of the N infection."