I. The Gradations of Abuse

II. The Guilt of the Abused - Pathologizing the Victim

III. Coping with Your Abuser

IV. The Abuser in Denial

V. Avoiding Your Abuser - The Submissive Posture

VI. Avoiding Your Abuser - The Conflictive Posture

VII. The Tocsins of Abuse - How to Spot an Abuser on Your First Date

VIII. The Tocsins of Abuse - The Abuser's Body Language

IX. The Path to Abuse

X. Ambient Abuse

XI. Abuse by Proxy

XII. Leveraging the Children

XIII. Tell Your Children the Truth

XIV. The Relief of Being Abandoned

 

XV. How to Cope with Your Paranoid Ex

XVI. Avoiding Your Paranoid Ex

XVII. The Three Forms of Closure

XVIII. Coping with Stalking and Stalkers

XIX. Getting Help

XX. Domestic Violence Shelters

XXI. Planning and Executing Your Getaway

XXIa. Should You Get the Police Involved?

XXIb. Should You Get the Courts Involved?

Danse Macabre - The Dynamics of Intimate Partner Abuse

II. The Mind of the Abuser

III. Condoning Abuse

IV. The Anomaly of Abuse

V. Reconditioning the Abuser

VI. Reforming the Abuser

VII. Contracting with Your Abuser

VIII. Your Abuser in Therapy

IX. Testing the Abuser

X. Conning the System

 

XI. Befriending the System

XII. Working with Professionals

XIII. Interacting with Your Abuser

XIV. Coping with Your Stalker

XV. Statistics of Abuse and Stalking

XVI. The Stalker as Antisocial Bully

XVII.  Coping with Various Types of Stalkers

XVIII. The Erotomanic Stalker

XIX. The Narcissistic Stalker

XX. The Psychopathic (Antisocial) Stalker

XXI. How Victims are Affected by Abuse

XXII. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

XXIII. Recovery and Healing from Trauma and Abuse

XXIV. The Conflicts of Therapy

These may be of help - click on the links:

Surviving the Narcissist

The Inverted Narcissist - Codependence and Relationships with Abusive Narcissists

Codependence and the Dependent Personality Disorder

The Dependent Patient - A Case Study

Danse Macabre - Trauma bonding and the Stockholm Syndrome

The Cult of the Narcissist

The Narcissist's Victims

 

Victim Reactions to Abuse by Narcissists and Psychopaths

Mourning the Narcissist

The Three Forms of Closure

Back to La-la Land

The Spouse/Mate/Partner of the Narcissist

Divorcing the Narcissist and the Narcissistic Psychopath - How Do I Get Rid of Him?

Traumas as Social Interactions

How Victims are Affected by Abuse

How Victims are Affected by Abuse - Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

 

How Victims are Affected by Abuse - Recovery and Healing

Narcissists and Personality disordered Mates, Spouses, and Partners

Projection and Projective Identification - Abuser in Denial

Approach-Avoidance Repetition Complex and Fear of Intimacy

Guilt? What guilt?

Narcissists, psychopaths, sex, and marital fidelity

The Narcissist or Psychopath Hates your Independence and Personal Autonomy

I miss him so much - I want him back!

Take care,

Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"