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From: XtraMSN Nicknamechatte775  (Original Message)Sent: 20/11/2008 12:14 a.m.
Validation from all of the experts on this forum...sad we are so many. Wonderful we are so many! I have been reading ferociously on this site for some time now. Wasn't going to speak up, but it niggled at me enough that I went ahead and posted a long list of what I've endured for the last 4 years...earlier today. I would appreciate a comment or two. I suppose it's pathetic that I am looking for validation, when it's right there - I wrote it!! Maybe a last hurrah before I let myself let go? I appreciate this site and all of your words of wisdom. Many of you have endured so much, I feel mine pales in comparison. Then I say "No, you experience is as valid as the next." The fog is lifting.


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From: XtraMSN NicknameAlamobelle3Sent: 24/11/2008 2:59 a.m.

Yep the boulder in someone elses shoe doesnt make the pebble in yours hurt any less . Pain is pain .

No matter what initial he is - he has hurt and treated you badly - good enough reason to walk away without a backwards glance
He had a chance to love you and HE
chose not to - NEXT >>>>>>>>>> Why doesnt matter -

You deserve the respect and consideration you wanted - find someone capable of giving it

You can do this - he isnt all that and a bag of chips - really


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From: XtraMSN NicknameWhatjusthappened0Sent: 24/11/2008 3:14 a.m.
Chatte,
 
Did you post it here or at new forum? Everyone deserves to be heard and point me in the direction and I'll be glad to read.
 
 

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From: XtraMSN Nicknamechatte775Sent: 24/11/2008 5:03 p.m.
Thank you What. You are most kind. I wrote the post "The list goes on." I am all of one silly week NC - actually quite a feat in this small town - and plan to ride it out as long as he stays away. Certainly not going to contact him myself!!! Feeling overall ok...a bit overwhelmed and .. empty when I wake up in the morning. But I do my exercises to start the day off on a positive note, and I am trying to do things for me me me. Had a spa treatment this weekend, then a big lunch, time with girlfriends...all off the radar screen of his usual haunts. I'm sad. I am not angry. Just sad. But I know I have finally reached my limit and will no longer subject myself to his indifference.

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From: XtraMSN Nicknamechatte775Sent: 24/11/2008 5:05 p.m.
So true, Alamo, about the pebble! Instead of trying to get the pebble out, I am going for tossing the whole shoe and getting another pair. In time. For now, it´s just sandals for me...let whatever debris tries to make its way in slip right on out again. thank you!

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From: XtraMSN NicknameAlamobelle3Sent: 25/11/2008 10:06 p.m.

You are welcome - great plan

happy shoe shopping -

trust that you will be okay without him -

hugs

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