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From: XtraMSN NicknameKIMBO958  (Original Message)Sent: 23/11/2008 2:32 p.m.
I fell for it. Again.
Please help me.
I need to start NC now.Again.After five months of doing it.
How good he lies.
The chest pains are starting.
I cant stop crying.
The D&D is starting.
I cant do this alone.


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From: XtraMSN Nicknamechatte775Sent: 23/11/2008 4:42 p.m.
You are not alone!!!!  I might recommend you also post at the new site - I think more and more people are focusing on that one rather than here.  You slipped - it's ok.  Trust you have the strength to stay away from greater pain, the pain of being with an N.  I've slipped my fair share of times, and although it seems to hurt a little less each time, I KNOW the only way is NC.  Let your body go through what it's feeling...use that pain to remind yourself what life with the N is all about. Pain.  Pure and simple.  Make a list of the things that were so painful to you...keep it with you, refer to it often.  Hang in there!  We're here for you!  Read read read here...it helps me so much. 

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From: XtraMSN NicknameBicyleGirlSent: 23/11/2008 5:50 p.m.
Look, Kimbo, you've only done what we've all done, and we know exactly how you feel. We've been through it, many of us have gotten beyond it, and you can too. It feels like absolute shit for you right now--I get it!!!--but you NEED to start right back where you left off, NOW, and begin to regain your strength. You don't have a choice, unless you want to live in hell for the rest of your life, and you DON"T want to do that. Take a deep breath, say a prayer (if that's something you do), drag yourself off the floor, take a shower, go outside, and resolve NEVER to break NC again no matter what....
 
You can do this. If I could, you can, trust me trust me trust me trust me.
 
YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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From: XtraMSN Nicknamesweetcaroline703Sent: 23/11/2008 6:35 p.m.
Gosh, I feel sorry for you because it is all so fresh but at some point you have to take control of the situation and decide that you have had enough. Hopefully, this is it.
 

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From: XtraMSN NicknameAlamobelle3Sent: 23/11/2008 11:06 p.m.

Hey you dipped - instead of beating yourself up for it - use it for
validation - yes he is that horrible - every single " bad " thought feeling you have had about him is based in reality

Come up with a catch phrase ----

Mine was NO GOOD DEED GOES UNPUNISHED - my goodness got me clobbered - because I had goodness in me
very absent in him

I typed out this saying in various fonts and put it everywhere
to remind me that my good deed would indeed be punished
by his abusive behavior
For a bit his name was even GOOD DEED in my phone
before I got the courage to delete and change

You have done NC for months - you will again
but find the phrase the word the slogan that will
instantly serve as a rational warning to your overloaded
emotional brain -

You can do this

NC for me over two years on the last one and over
twenty years on the first one - Yeah had multiples

They are all gone now and the last chapters of my life
are much better and different than the ones at the beginning 0

You can do this

Choose you - everytime choose you over him

he got your attention to reel you back in - not next
time - okay - before you know it NC is the habit
not playing with the wingnut .

YOU CAN DO THIS !


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From: XtraMSN NicknameKIMBO958Sent: 24/11/2008 1:30 a.m.
Thanks to all of  you.
I was so strong before.
I will do this again.
If it kills me.
 

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From: XtraMSN NicknameSSull2402Sent: 25/11/2008 10:49 p.m.
Forgive me if I seem insensitive, but I've been reading how you've gone back a few times recently, PLEASE STOP DOING THAT TO YOURSELF.

I KNOW it hurts, I KNOW how hard it is, but YOU KNOW BETTER!!!! I could sit here and rub your back and tell you it'll all be ok, but that doesn't help, you still went back again. Take control of your life and GO NC AND STAY THERE! He can only do it if you let him!

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