yeah scooby!!! Hoping this past court date was positive for you.. It helps to know we are not alone in our battles..

Well, you can catch some of it in my othe post Is He done or is it a trick but, damn, once it was done, I thought, geez, as if I would be stupid enough to think they'd come in with a fair deal and finish this.  Not! 

I must say I kicked some serious a** though.  I went toe to toe with his lawyer, that was fun.  I know a whole lot more about our business finances than those two clowns and that pissed em off.  I really think the whole intent was to scare me into an agreement and well, I don't scare easy these days.  That's small potatoes nowadays.  So, we are supposed to go into court tomorrow, Monday, and see if a judge will give me control of my business and start liquidating.  The only problem is that the female judge that is familiar with my N is gone for a few days yet so we will have a different male judge. 

My lawyer asked me Friday if I want to proceed with him or wait for the other?  I can't decide if I should wait or take my chances.  I'm leaning towards waiting a few days instead of gambling like that.

Thanks for thinking of me guys!

Hey, you guys from North America...did anyone see 48 hours? the other night?  OMG. 

It was about a woman who left her N, they had 3 kids.  She met him on a flight and he moved really fast, they were married in no time flat.  He was a charmer.  Things got ugly so she left him.   She remarried, he remarried?  Her N spent 660,000 dollars trying to get the kids and to not pay her support.  She had to get married in a secret location.  He even told his second wife he wanted her dead and all that?  And, he was abusive to wife #2 too.   Anyway, he hired someone to shoot her and her new husband?  Got her in the back of the head and she is paralyzed neck down.  Her husband died 2 years later from a massive heart attack.  Stress I'm thinking.

Anyway, he was a textbook N!  He was the exact replica of my ex and he was choked over custody and money, those were two serious issues for him.  9 years after she was shot, he got life in prison, hundreds of years.  The 4 guys that did the dirty work testified against him and he said they were all liars.  He said his kids were liars.  Everyone was lying!  Wow, it was eerie.

 

He denied everthing, he denied all the abuse, all the mindgames, all the jealousy and control, all the emotional abuse to the kids.  9 years later the kids had it all figured out, they remembered what he had said to them. 

I was watching it with my sisters.  They are so scared for me cuz my N is pretty nutty.  I had the scariest nightmare that night.  Probably should stay away from shows like that huh?

Thanks for thinking of me guys, you're awesome.

I'll keep ya posted when I get that golden egg.

 

Scooby,

Good for you!  Way to go!  I bet they certainly didn't expect your reaction. 

 

I think I'd wait for the judge that knows your case better.

 

I didn't see that show, but there was a case here locally, where a true N murdered his wife over custody of their kids.  But the body was never found.  It was only circumstancial evidence.  And he insisted on testifying, which defendants are always advised not to do.  But he was such an N, he just had to tell everyone how smart he was.  So, even without a body, the jury came back with a guilty verdict!   Pretty incredible---

 

Play it smart--Safe and smart---

scooby

 

Good to hear from you.. I would wait for the other lawyer.. There is something good about continuity I think.. I know in the end it is all about Mathmetics, but most judges do not look favorably toward hiding or misappropriateion of assets, and will certainly keep that in consideration when there is a point that is in contention..

 

Didn't see the show but there spouses  have killed for lesser things, and money becomrs a great motivator. A couple years ago there was a reverse situation where A woman was involved in a very messy divorce and custody battle. Don;t know if the H was an N but he was known to be a real b$$$tard. The W actually tried to hire the hit man, but unfortunatley ( for her)  the prospective hit man  called th e police/FBI and  the woman was arrested and is doing time in prison now. She lost everything.. I knew the woman as a customer.. It was all quite shocking..Apparently he pushed her buttons to the point where she finally snapped ..

 

SO be careful.. You just never know..

 

Sorry nothing got resolved, but you know these N's . They truly believe they are "entitled". With hindsight I look back and realise that my NH was able to sucessfully hide assets from his ex wife of 20 years, who really didn't want that much from thier divorce. When I left my NH after our 20 year stint , his ex and I talked  and she finally told me the "truth" about thier marraige and divorce,It was a much  differnt story from what my NH had lead me to believe. I had gotten to know his ex through the years, who is a good, christian woman and what she finally shared confirmed my new supsicions of my H being more of an N than I thought. These men have absolutely no conpunction about lying and cheating. I will never know all that he has done..I just hope I can get my share of the Marital assets, but it will be a game of hide and seek, smoke and mirrors.

 

The good news is I do have a law firm that specialises in difficult divorce cases. My lawyer managed to put a well known celebrity in jail until he ante'd up back child support . The Sr lawyer in her Famly law division has written the book and set precedent for tax evasion and misappropiation of assets. So hopefully I have the right legal team to fight the good fight..  I hope so becasue so far I have shelled out over $40,000 and we are expecting to top off somewhere around $75,000 before we are done. IT scares me to spend that kind of money, but my financial future depends upon it..You need the best when coming up against these men... I think my lawyer is finally realising that my NH is "off"..

 

Talk to you later scooby... Keep us posted.. WE are routing for ya! 

 

 

Hey thanks guys.

I dropped an email in to my lawyer this morning to see how long my favorable judge is gone for.  That seems to be the best route, yup.

Sounds like you're in deep PG too, like me, with no end in sight. 

You go girl.   Sounds like you have a great legal team, you should be fine, its only a matter of time (and money, of course). 

Its kind of like the last battle hey?  Its one we really don't want to come up short on since we always seemed to be on the losing end through the marriage.

 

Yes, Scooby - I watched that 48 hours mystery - he WAS classic, wasn't he - I mean, I can hear the stress in his voice as he denies, denies, denies...and yes, I agree with your observation - "N" to the Nth degree.

 

GL in your case.

 

BMOGS

My ex is nutty like that, frickin' freaky. 

We were supposed to go in front of a judge on Monday, a new, male, judge, unfamiliar with the case, so I told my lawyer we should wait for the female judge who has already seen us a few times already.  I took everyone's advice, yup!

Anyway, turns out this male judge decided on his own that she should continue to hear our case so we're rescheduled for next Monday.  That's the 4th adjournment but well, what's another week at this point. 

I was talking to a bailiff that has served us a couple times and he said there are a lot of people around town that have been told and believe I'm sinking the business and my ex.  I said, "who cares", my friends know the truth and if they were my friends, I'd care", but they're not, so I don't give a sh**. 

I'm so glad I've found another thing that I've moved away from.  Not caring what he's saying or who he's saying to, well, except, maybe to my kids, I care about that.

But, its progress!