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Divorce/Custody : I can't take it anymore!
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From: XtraMSN Nicknamelissymom1  (Original Message)Sent: 29/08/2008 5:00 p.m.
Well, a little bit about me and my situation. I just realized with the help of family and friends, that my husband is a N.
It will be two years coming up in November that we met. He seemed so sweet and nice at first. He had just gotten out of a bad relationship. It had been over a year since my divorce had been finalized. I was dating people, but not really looking for anything. Probably after our 5 or 6 date, he told me he loved me. After that, things kind of went down hill, I just thought it was normal. He would take me to his friends and question everything about myself. He would ask me why I would wear a sweater instead of a tank top or something, he would say it looked better. He kept talking to his ex girlfriends and stuff. He was so worried at first to even go into the town where the girl that he just recently broke up with lived. He still won't go there. The population has to be 5,000 plus. In early January, he proposed to me. He moved in with me and my parents, because he couldn't handle his mom. We got a place in February. I got pregnant in March. We got married in June. Even before we got married I knew I shouldn't go thru with it, but I was so worried about what life for my baby would be like. We fought about everything. He could have friends that were girls, that liked him, but I couldn't have any friends, unless they were his friends girlfriends. He started reading thru my phone, my e-mails, my mail. Anything he could do to have control. That is when it got worse, after we got married. He lied constantly. He bought a 4 Wheeler, lied to me about how much it cost, and then when I went to pay the bill, I saw that there was another loan. When I questioned him about it, he lied again. He got more upset and said he just wouldn't come home from his trip. I said it was stupid to do that. Now I wish I would have told him not to come home. He recently sold his vehicle, has been using mine. Leaving me at home with no vehicle. It has been 2 months. He knows that I feel like I am a prisioner and he enjoys it. You can see it on his face. I got the nerve to stand up to him, and oh boy that was a mistake. He made my life hell. He threatend suicide, then when I got up to where he was, he told me that I had to change. I am not going to do that. I need help on how to kick him out of the house. He says he is trying, but he is just being fake. I can tell he is holding back his anger. I am worried that he might take my baby. Please Help Me!


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From: XtraMSN Nickname____1New1Strength1____Sent: 29/08/2008 7:07 p.m.
Lissy, I see you are a new member.  For safety reasons, please remove your picture and any personal information about you.  These sights attract a lot of disordered people.

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From: XtraMSN NicknamexxenuffxxSent: 30/08/2008 10:27 p.m.
ok lissy, start by sorting out your finances...put money away, make sure you have your own money, and your credit cards, especially any joint accounts etc. sort out all your documents like birth certificates etc...and give them to someone you trust. getting away from an N takes some deceit and smokescreens while you set everything up in place so you can just go.
 
when you do go, keep any vile emails and print them out...so you have the option of taking them to the police as proof, so you can get a restraining order. change your SIM, it will save so much bother in long run, and dont give it out to anyone. cut contact with any mutual friends, because he will use them to find out about you...check the NC article on the left column.
 
its not easy but it is do-able, and this will be the best thing you can do for you and your baby, keep strong and keep coming on here erasing your history on your pc
 
all the best xx

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From: XtraMSN NicknameAnnieashley1Sent: 17/09/2008 8:16 a.m.
Hey Lissy,
Welcome! I am glad you found this site. You are going thru some awful things. The people here are so caring and knowledgeable--listen to what they say--you will get lots of good advice and support. You will need to be secretive and do some planning as was already suggested. Keep us posted!
Blessings,
Annieashley1

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