I'm sorry this message has been deleted.  I could feel the pain and frustration of the lady who wrote it and I wanted to respond, but now I don't have the specifics.  Well, whoever you are, I want you to know that I heard you and I am so sorry for your pain.  You've had a lot to deal with and some awful people hurting you.   I have to say, though, that I wouldn't want people to get a bad opinion of the military from your experience.  It sounds like that one guy was a bad guy, not that the military was bad.  And that the BAH would have been yours if you had known.  If you care to repost, I'd like to offer support.