read it somewhere...i notice this pattern from my years.............they idealize you, you see the real them, the discard starts, abuse, verbal absue gets worse, control etc, they lie, cheat, etc, they pick fights, want reactions, you leave, you get strong, you stay NC, they hoover, they try to get you mad, you react, they hoover, you go back....cycle repeats.................................then you notice when the discard starts, they cheat, then they get this paranoid state, cycle repeats.............i repeated x3. during the stage i though he was cheating again i noticed this paranoid state with me. he projected it all onto me. if i didn't answer the phone he had a fit. it was bizarree....but all along he did something the day before and i knew it...clockwork pattern.
so is this projection. they cheat, the next day they are so paranoid about your actions, they question every more to a weirdness..............kind of frenzy. it is like they want us to acknowlegde their behavior but the last time i turned my head and ended it in my head.i once read they act out to punish us in their head and to hope that we will punish them because they are bad..............it is like a child who does something wrong behind their mother's back, their mother doesn't say anything about the behavior but SHE KNOWS. and this silence kills them and makes them very paronoid cause they know they did wrong and she knows.....................then he feels bad & worse. any psycho majors here. i think i may have found something out----through his patterns i can see this. and he feels he has punished me from the recent act i know it. silence kills them. is N related to schizopheria? |
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