Thanks NF,

I stuck it out for four years.  How pathetic.  I was on to him after a few months, thanks to a girlfriend of mine (OW1 - was with her before me, but denied their relationship).  I try to be away, I do my damndest.  But we live in a small town - in Mexico - and it's too hard.  He knows where I work, he lurks around my office. Knows all my haunts.  I refuse to hibernate and hide.  I finally am doing little things like sitting such that I can't see the entrance in restaurants/bars, took him off my email, don't keep cell phone handy (so I miss his calls - I do not return them!).  Been through the pattern so many times.  He gets enraged, he gets loving, he gets distant.  Around and around. I fear I might have to leave my little town to get away.  But I won't be run out, damn it!!!  

 

And Poppy...yes!  All the other women!  That he denied flat out.  Enraged when I called him on it.  Turned it all around on me.  Evidently, I was at fault!  Go figure! 

 

I am sad, angry, hopeful, relieved.